My Brothers Did Some Weird Shit

[radicalgratitude]

I can see where the misunderstandings came from. I am glad you can see now that I wasn't attacking you.

 

[jesse]

Phillipa I do not think I need to justify my original post to you. When Anthony referenced my post as possibly being PC that admittedly offended me but at the same time helped to put it in that perspective was ridiculous hence the next post. Why do you think I need to justify to you what I write or how I feel? I know in an open forum you will get negative comments etc. but you have gone a bit overboard in my opinion. I write on here because I like the support from people like Radical, Abstract, Anthony etc. I also like giving support to others. I have already had enough judgmental people in my life you may call it blunt but I don't.

 

[Philippa]

I never asked you to justify your post. I simply pointed out that it contradicted the post you sent in reply to one of my previous comments...which caused me some confusion. I wasn't expecting anything like that. You keep misreading my words for some reason, and their intent, and then accusing me of things I didn't even say or ask for? Why?

If you don't want to justify your feelings or what you wrote in your post then you are not obliged to, obviously. I wasn't expecting you to, I just felt confused that you said one thing and then seemed like you had no doubts about it when you addressed me, after telling me you disagreed with me, even though you thought I said something I didn't even say.

I was hoping you would see that you misinterpreted my words where you thought I was defending boy rapists, and acknowledge that you did make a mistake there though...but I can see that isn't going to happen.

If you are unable to see that I also offered you support by saying that whatever you felt was valid, despite not knowing whether it was sexual abuse or not, then that is a shame. At least I was honest about it.

You are free to interpret my bluntness as judgement. Loads of people get that wrong about bluntness. Bluntness is simply saying something without sugar coating it. Saying it straight in other words...but it isn't very well received by many people. Some people enjoy it and respect it more as a form of communicating than sugar coating. You're obviously not one of them. That's ok.

I assure you though there was no judgement in what I asked you, I was simply expressing that I didn't like having my words twisted so it looked like I was defending boy rapists, which was not even close to what I was actually saying. I was also trying to work out why you would ask people if we thought it was sexual abuse, when you seemed very clear that you were sure it was in your reply to me. I have worked through that confusion with radicalgratitude though, so it is clearer to me now.

I can see that this is going nowhere though, and you seem to be misreading my words and intent, so I'm just going to bail on this conversation.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

I didn't read all the posts completely but my first thought was not that it was sexual abuse but like Anthony said as indecent exposure.

I will also say that in no way was your brother intentions pure or harmless. I think you have every right to be nervous around him.

 

[anthony]

I will say this... I have now banned a member temporarily from this thread for arguing their opinion, instead of stating it and letting others have their opinion. Respect opinions...

It is up to the member whether it is abuse or not, as it is they who hold all the information and feelings. We provide opinions and experience to help them obtain their own reasoning, which the member has, being they feel it was abuse, thus it is abuse because they are the person with all the feelings and facts towards their situation. It is abuse... the rest is now regardless.

Teenagers do stupid shit, the world has gone PC silly, however; all of that is irrespective in this case as our opinions and discussion have helped them obtain their decision based on their facts and feelings. Respect opinions please and don't argue your own, as an opinion is not right or wrong, it's just your opinion.