My Friend Keeps Me Sane

[MessyMind]

Anyone else have that one friend that they have told about there PTSD and that friend is the only thing that keeps them from completely loosing it sometimes?

My said friend can tell when i'm about to have a panic attack and can calm me down before it becomes uncontrolable and if i message them while having panic attack or if i'm unset for any reason they will distract me and try to get me to laugh, i would of kms along time ago with out them honestly

i think everyone should have a friend like that

 

[Deleted member 37474]

I have a friend like that. Because of her encouragement, She is the reason that I have started seeing a therapist. I tell her that she is my "safe" person or my "comfort" person. I get really stressed about therapy so she answers her phone if I call her right after the appointment. Therapy after therapy. Lol. She is also the only person that knows the details of what happened to me. One day I told her that I think that I need her to read my trauma journal. She did and it was the first time anyone had ever given me empathy and validation knowing the details. Also, it isn't one sided. She has her own trauma that I support her on, as well. I truly consider her God-sent.

 

[ladee]

I have a friend like that!
She is a huge part of my life and has been for over 30 yrs.
But I am there for her too.
Thru thick and thin.
Priceless!

 

[MessyMind]

I have a friend like that. Because of her encouragement, She is the reason that I have started seeing a...

i like the phrase "safety person" cause thats exactly how i feel with my friend, safe.

 

[Skyalex]

Anyone else have that one friend that they have told about there PTSD and that friend is the only th...

My best friend is the only person in the world that knows everything I've been through and I can always go to him when I need to talk or don't feel well.

 

[Rani G2]

think everyone should have a friend like that

@MessyMind

Your post makes me realize that it is tough having no such friend. Even tougher, when I see that I have kicked off many due to the fact that I have trouble letting people in, showing emotions, i dislike hugs and being too emotional. Isolation is hard, breaking the shell, slow very slow.

 

[Deleted member 37474]

@MessyMind

Your post makes me realize that it is tough having no such friend. Even...

I think that the only friend that I have to talk to "works" because she had a trauma that is different than mine, but creates similar feelings of shame, fear and disappointment. Our trust developed gradually. It is almost like a trauma bond, but we are very close because of it. I feel guilty at times because she supports my crap more often since it is all out on the table right now with therapy in the picture. I had found a private message friend on this site once that I felt very bonded to early on, but she couldn't handle the emotions/flashbacks our conversations were stirring up and left. That was extremely painful for me to deal with. I couldn't stop crying. So friendship, while amazing, Also puts you in a very vunerable place/risk.

 

[MessyMind]

I think that the only friend that I have to talk to "works" because she had a trauma that is different t...

My friend went through a similar experience that i did but i didn't know about till i explain what had happened to me (they asked why i don't like physical touch) and because i trusted them i told them the truth and after i said they probably don't want to be friends anymore cause im "damaged" but they did the complete oppisite and then i didnt feel alone anymore

@MessyMind

Your post makes me realize that it is tough having no such friend. Even...

i hate physical contact as well, the good thing is my friend understands that and always asks first before hugging or leaning on me ect. i also don't trust most people but some times you meet someone and you just feel completely comfortable with them an trust them completely and it's great and they make me safe and i don't get to feel that way to often