General My Husband And Nlp Therapy

[Whitneys story]

Amethist, Has his Therapist given any steps to use when heavy stress hits? I know it must be difficult given the circumstances of the situation. Or might it be time for a refresher.

I am so encouraged how effective it has been. Hugs, Whitney

 

[amethist]

The NLP therapist is doing some video clips for him to use at home.

As for Talk Therapy, he has been waiting to hear from them since last September. We know he is on the waiting list, and is moving up it, but how long it will be now we have no idea.

 

[Sunrise]

If the NLP is working so well, might more of that be the talk therapy for your hubby?
(I like to keep all distractions away but i like the sound of that dog. : o ) )

 

[amethist]

The NLP therapy deals with the symptoms of the here and now, still waiting for the talk therapy to deal with the trauma's

 

[amethist]

Last week we went to see our friend again for some more therapy, this time to deal with some issues that have come up for hubby that have been effecting his PTSD.

I also had some myself to help me deal with it easier too.

It was again a wonderful few days, very relaxing but hard work at times too.

Hubby did have an issue when we got back and had a bad wobble on Friday, which resulted in him getting drunk. as has been explained to us since, it's not that the therapy has not worked, it just was so intense, it threw him off balance. He is fine now and understands it could take another week before his brain settles down from all that was done.

We were also taught how to anchor our selves into the here and now when things get out of sorts. A bit like grounding but with added help.

 

[DMerish]

Hi Amethist, I just realized I "liked" several old posts in this thread :rolleyes: no worries though, "likes" don't hurt anything.

I'm glad you and your husband are finding some value in NLP.

 

[amethist]

Friday night was a nightmare, hubby lost it big time and took off. I began to wonder why we had bothered with the therapy at all. Then it was explained to us what we think happened.

He did have some really intense therapy while we were there and we were told on Sunday that it all probably upset his brain, hence the melt down.

Today has been a wonderful day, better than we have had in months and he says he feels good now.

We are just hoping that this is the beginning of a new start for both of us.

 

[amethist]

Well hubby has had a quite a few weeks of talk therapy and feels it is not working, so made a phone call tonight to go back for more NLP therapy. He feels that works better for him than anything else he has tried.

I like this type of therapy too as it helps me to deal with my own issues, which at the moment are quite a few.

So next week we are going for a few days hard slog to get back to some king of good level we had before his talk therapy started.

 

[Abstract]

amethist, apologies as you have probably discussed this already but has he actually worked on processed his trauma? Is the NLP about building coping skills and stability or trauma itself? Was the talk therapy more trauma related and if that is the case and he hasn't done actual trauma work, what is the longer term plan?

Good to hear you both found something you like.

 

[amethist]

@Abstract

The talk therapist does not seem to be working on his traumas, more how life is day to day. More how things effect him day to day and just brushing on his trauma a little bit. Not going into it fully like we expected. He has not been taught any skills to use to help him through stuff either, its all been a bit hit and miss to be honest.

I know sometimes its a case of the therapist not fitting, but when you are stuck with who ever is allocated to you, then its a bit of a problem.

 

[Abstract]

stuck with who ever is allocated to you

That is very unfortunate. From what you said it sounds like he has never been given any proper skills training and has never processed his trauma either.

Just throwing things out there but is it worthwhile researching exactly what he needs and asking for it? One thing at a time. Starting with skills training from the sounds of things. Have you thought of going private? It may not be possible of course but I am guessing the NLP is coming out of your own pocket.

Do you both have a longer term plan on how to get him to a point where he can process the trauma and a plan on how he would do it when he gets there?

 

[amethist]

he has never been given any proper skills training and has never processed his trauma either.

This is true Abstract and from the phone conversation he had with the therapist this morning it seems like giving up was a good idea. All the therapist said to him was "Well that's fine if that's what you have decided". No asking if he was sure or telling him it was a bad idea, nothing. I have taught him more than the therapist did.

We have thought of going private, but the fee's are too much for us to afford. The NLP therapy does not cost us anything apart from travel costs.

We will now give it some time and see how he goes after next week, if he improves again as he did last time then we will stick with it. If he goes down hill then we will rethink plans for future therapy.