My Husband Has Asked To Come To A Therapy Session

[Poofycat]

My husband went to see his therapist yesterday (he's pretty stable, gets help for anxiety) to talk about my new diagnosis of PTSD. He mainly went in to talk about how he can best support me. One thing his therapist suggested was having me ask my therapist if he (my husband) could come to a session with me. I can see where he's coming from, but I'm honestly confused about what he expects to get out of it. Has anyone done this? Was it helpful?

 

[DogwoodTree]

My DH comes with me about once a month. It's a chance for us to talk about difficult things together with my T's support and objective perspective. DH is not in separate therapy, so it's a chance for him to address his own stuff a little, too. This stuff going on with me has been really hard on our marriage, but we're also using it as an opportunity to address things in the marriage that we might have otherwise ignored.

 

[Poofycat]

Thanks, DogwoodTree! That's pretty helpful. I asked my therapist about it last night, and he said I should figure out what I would want to get out of it if my husband came with me. I guess I want to be able to better explain what I'm going through, especially on bad days when I basically become uncommunicative. I like the idea of addressing other things in the marriage as well. We have a great marriage, but there's no doubt that PTSD has added stress.

 

[DogwoodTree]

I like the idea of addressing other things in the marriage as well.

I found it was tough to be the "source" of all the troubles to be addressed in therapy. It worked a lot better if we were "broken together" (that's a great song, btw)...both of us have issues to be addressed, and there are issues in our relationship and in our lives that we can face as a team. We're not there to "fix me." We're there to travel this journey together, with layers of challenges from multiple sources, and layers of resources within both of us.

I hope it goes well for you.

 

[Panda Bear]

If you think it will help, then give it a go. My husband has not been to my appointments and I'm not ready for him, not sure he ever will. T helps me navigate marriage issues often and I practice them at home. We've been successful thus far with this method. My husband seems to be navigating the PTSD picture pretty well, but knows my T would help if he ever wanted to see someone.

T did see my husband one time, with out me present. It was tell him about my CSA.:cry: