Death My mother died this morning

[Lionheart]

Thank you from my heart of hearts everyone,... your heartfelt empathy is a sweet blessing and gift.

The pain comes in waves and remembering that, helps me to roll with the punches, so to speak. the pain doesn't really get better tho I had hoped it would...

anyway, I just find that I have a very big heart and have a lot of love for my mom

...perhaps the pain serves as a tribute to the bond of love we shared between us.

A lot of love = A lot of grief...but that's okay. I was honored to have her as my mother!!!

 

[gealach]

:hug: @Lionheart777 the pain does get better, it just takes time. It sneaks up on you, but one day you'll find yourself laughing about your mom, instead of crying. And the next weeks will be more laughter, until you remember her often with happiness and rarely with sadness. You love your mom a lot, and that is a beautiful tribute to her.

 

[EveHarrington]

:hug:

 

[Deleted member 541]

Hey @Lionheart777 Just checking in... I'm hoping that things are getting better?!?!?! I know it takes time. Hugs!!!!

 

[Lionheart]

Acceptance is a bit easier than it was.

Grief is still fresh and a source of pain but beyond that, there is a deep and abiding love; the love of mother and son, a bond that can't be broken by death or by the passage of time, ... as the song says, "I believe the heart does go on...." and that belief brings me a good deal of comfort!!!

 

[SaharaSon]

Thank you @A little lost , thank you so much for sharing your experience and ins...

Lionheart, I am very sorry for your loss, you will see your mom again, that I know. My mom passed away in the last few weeks. I'm having a hard time grieving. I have serious abandonment and consealment issues with her, that I have had difficulty time forgiving. Someone alot wiser than me, says that at some level, she partially died to me, when she abandoned me, at age 4, in an African country. She took my brothers from me, as well. It was so traumatic. It tore me up, bigtime. I hope that God will see to it that I get a second chance to reconcile my relationship with my mom. Writing this is the first time I have been able to cry for my mom, since she passed. Thank you for that gift, Lionheart. Shalom. :(

 

[Lionheart]

@SaharaSon ,

My relationship with my mother was not perfect....there was a time when I was young that she abandoned me emotionally, but over time I was able to forgive her and move past the pain.......I hope that you too will get the chance to reconcile your relationship with your mother......

You deserve to have the peace and reassurance that you were loved although she may not have been a perfect person, making terrible mistakes as we humans are prone to do. I am sorry for your pain and wish your mother had not made such a horrible error in judgement!!!! I do not know what her reasons were to do that.

It is good to cry and allow yourself to heal from the past, I think you are a very strong person to have survived. I wish you all the healing and love your heart can hold and I am so deeply sorry for your loss!!!!

wishing you peace,
Lion

 

[SaharaSon]

@SaharaSon ,

My relationship with my mother was not perfect....there was a time...

Thank you for your kind words, Lionheart. I know we are both going through a rough patch right now, but if history is any lesson, time will heal these wounds. Forgiveness is a big deal. I know this. I know that none of us are perfect, the older I get the more I come to terms with this truth. Love your children. Communicate with your children. Kids don't understand things. They have to be taught. You don't have to be a helicopter parent, but be sure to communicate the most important lessons in life. It will not happen by osmosis. I don't know of anything more important. Live long and prosper Lionheart.:tup: Shalom.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I am sorry to hear about your mom passing, take care of you.

 

[Lionheart]

There are some days that seem impossibly difficult because I have to acknowledge what a significant loss this is for me....I have to revisit just how much love existed between my mother and I, even the difficult times when we didn't see eye to eye, were still a gift to be honored and valued. This week has been such a rough time for me. Deep inside I am grieving and I have been crying in my sleep again.

and so I am now dealing with my own beliefs about death and dying....

Perhaps I need to start another thread, but I am working to cope with my own mortality and my own thoughts about death, dying, and any possible afterlife. I thought I was sure about my beliefs about an afterlife and now, I am having doubts and fears about it all.

All I know is that I hope I have lived a good life and that in the end there is peace, perhaps even comfort.

Living seems quite easy, as it something I have known, even with it's uncertainties.....while death is shrouded in mystery and is full of unknowns.