Death My mum died last night

[barefoot]

It’s been a dreadful, dreadful day.

My dad phoned early this morning to tell me that my mum died last night.

She hadn’t been ill...it was completely unexpected. It has been a huge, huge shock.

I am now at my parents’ house with my dad and sister. My dad is being a trooper - very chipper and mostly acting like nothing awful has happened. My sister is in a bad state.
I don’t know how to be.

We’re all sitting watching tv and I just keep thinking about what Mum would be doing and saying if she was sitting here with us. Her not being here just feels so wrong...and so unreal...

Trying to stay present and not dissociate but my head is sliding all over the place...

Don’t know why I’m posting really...just need to put this somewhere and trying to focus my mind...

 

[Abstract]

I am so sooo sorry. Sending you much strength and acceptance. Its a shock when it happens so unexpectedly and much usually comes with these things, which are complicated. One thing that I found helpful for me is Radical Acceptance. Of whatever thoughts, feelings or needs happen.

Whatever you feel or think is perfectly OK and you are not alone. Think of what you need to do for you right now.

 

[Missycat]

I am so so sorry . Sending hugs if accepted and strength that you can get through this awful shocking time.
Take care of yourself and know that we are here should you need an ear to listen .

 

[Coastal]

It’s been a dreadful, dreadful day.

My dad phoned early this morning to tell me that my mum died last night.

She hadn’t been ill...it was completely unexpected. It has been a huge, huge shock.

I am now at my parents’ house with my dad and sister. My dad is being a trooper - very chipper and mostly acting like nothing awful has happened. My sister is in a bad state.
I don’t know how to be.

We’re all sitting watching tv and I just keep thinking about what Mum would be doing and saying if she was sitting here with us. Her not being here just feels so wrong...and so unreal...

Trying to stay present and not dissociate but my head is sliding all over the place...

Don’t know why I’m posting really...just need to put this somewhere and trying to focus my mind...

I am so sorry about the loss of your mum. I know how tragic it is. Please know I am praying for God's peace and comfort for you and your family.

 

[Still Standing]

@barefoot, I, too, want to express my sympathy for the passing of your mom. I'm soooooo sorry for you and your family.

 

[LuckiLee]

Condolences to you and yours.

 

[Teamwork]

Incredibly tough day for you all and it’s wise to come seek out other aspects of your family. Sending you respect for how you are currently and hugs for the days ahead.

 

[Teasel]

So very sorry to hear this @barefoot :hug: :hug: :hug:

 

[Joan]

So sorry to hear the loss of your mum. Please take sweet care of yourself and feel what you feel. no right or wrong.

 

[scout86]

Sorry about your mom @barefoot . I suspect that not knowing what to feel, feeling all kinds of things, and feeling nothing at all may all be "normal", under the circumstances. Writing was probably a good choice in the effort to make sense of it. Take care of yourself!

 

[somerandomguy]

I'm so sorry, barefoot.

 

[FauxLiz]

@barefoot my sympathy and condolences. I know the shock and confusion of losing a parent unexpectedly. There is no right or wrong way to feel or act. Take care of yourself and make time for you to recognize and accept what ever it is that you are feeling.