General My Self Management Is To Not Be Around My Ptsd Sufferer Husband.

[Sunshine71]

My self management is to not be around my PTSD sufferer husband.

The minute he walks out of the door I feel a weight off of my shoulders....

I hate saying this.

I want us to go out, smile, have fun..... I have a double life..... I am on the stage, meeting cool people and celebs.... the reality is much different at home.

Hubbie seems to be able to be his old self when he is not around me either.

PTSD is so cruel :(

Sorry if this isn't suitable for here - I didn't really know what I was going to say until I starting typing.

Much love Sunshine xx

 

[EveHarrington]

:hug:

 

[Sweetpea76]

Compassion fatigue is a real thing. You can get burned out easily.

It's OK to need breaks too.

 

[Sunshine71]

Compassion fatigue is a real thing. You can get burned out easily.

It's OK to need breaks too.[/QU...

I feel terrible and feel that I have this.... :( I am struggling to care and I feel horrible saying it....:( I feel evil :( He has even said this to me "you dont care anymore"

But its just so tough :(

 

[Sweetpea76]

This is why boundaries and self care are so important to supporters. Being martyrs and doormats will break us down. Giving and giving with no "take" gets exhausting.

Relationships take two people, but when your partner is symptomatic, you feel on your own a lot.

It's ok to be frustrated and exhausted. You need to have a little compassion for yourself too.

 

[Sunshine71]

This is why boundaries and self care are so important to supporters. Being martyrs and doormats will...

Thanks Sweetpea... we need to look at boundaries - at the moment it isn't do good as he seems to have lost his memory but I am exhausted....

I have got my son off to school, worked all day in my office before 8am.... worked non stop until 3.45 went food shopping, picked my son up, made dinner. watched some TV with him, tidied up, took him to bed and now its 9.15PM and I havent really stopped.... hubbie hasnt really done anything...... and I wish I didnt have to ask.... :(

 

[Gs172003]

Thanks gopea... we need to look at boundaries - at the moment it isn't do good as he seems to have...

Can you talk to him about this? Just say would you mind helping me im very tired. Maybe he's just lost in his head..

 

[Sunshine71]

Can you talk to him about this? Just say would you mind helping me im very tired. Maybe he's just lost i...

I try... but sometimes its not worth it... he must see me rushing around and at breaking point.... he does do somethings sometimes... he has to work from home too.... I will ask more... sometimes I may say "Can you do xxxx" and he doesnt or he does it begrudgingly and this just upsets me more...

:(

 

[Gs172003]

I try... but sometimes its not worth it... he must see me rushing around and at breaking point.... he...

He's exhausted. I promise you. But...that doesn't excuse him from leaving you to do EVERYTHING. I slacked for a long time and left alot of things undone. Maybe some things just need to be taken off the priority list until the two of you can work together better.