our daughter is 11. right now she's sequestered at her grandparent's apt. her mother is there. i don't have any reason to believe that her mom isn't still triggered & spinning w/fear & rage. i'm VERY open to suggestions!Your wife's healing is her responsibility.
Perhaps anger management? Inpatient?
How old is your daughter if you don't mind me asking? I can probably help you address this with her.
also: my wife and i have a meeting scheduled for 2 days from now with a mediator who is also psychiatrist.