Relationship My Wife Is Lost And Trying To Alienate Herself...

[Loveherforever]

My wife is suffering from PTSD and is alienating herself from everyone who cares about her, going back to toxic relationships with people who don't care about her at all, and now says she isn't in love with me anymore. She says she still loves me, knows we are soulmates, and that we are meant to be together, but that she's just not happy and can't be with me right now.

Does anyone have any advice on what to do right now? She's acting strange and I've been afraid she's suicidal but she denied the help I got for her during her last meltdown and she has a psych appointment tomorrow but she's so good at taking I'm terrified it won't help. She's gotten into two very serious physical rights recently and keeps putting herself in dangerous situations. I'm at a total loss with what to do anymore except continue to love her as I always have. My greatest year is that her path to self destruction will cost her her life or her freedom.

Can anyone help me or give advice?

 

[Sweetpea76]

Unfortunately, at this point in time, you cant really help her. She has to want to get help.

That's what sucks about being a supporter and being on the "outside". We have no control over what happens. We're just along for the ride.

 

[Loveherforever]

Unfortunately, at this point in time, you cant really help her. She has to want to get help.

That's...

She left me. She had an appointment today and I tried to get her to go or at least talk to me and she just left me. What do I do now?

 

[Sweetpea76]

Did she go to her appointment?

 

[Loveherforever]

Did she go to her appointment?

No. She wouldn't go. She thinks she is irreparably broken and that if she went and they saw how bad it was they wouldnt let her out. She left me bc she said I bring her down bc I can't support her bad decisions and her throwing away all that is good in her life.

 

[Sweetpea76]

Untreated PTSD is really hard to deal with as a supporter. You can't make her want to get treatment or want to get better. You can't make her stay with you, or keep her from making bad decisions.

At this point, it's time for self care. All you can do is let her know you love her, you're there if she needs you, then just let go and take care of yourself.

That's the scary thing about all relationships. Youre trusting somebody else with your heart, and they aren't always good to it.

 

[Justmehere]

@Loveherforever - I'm so sorry she stopped her recovery and bailed on the relationship with you. That's a huge loss. How are you doing with it all?

 

[Loveherforever]

Untreated PTSD is really hard to deal with as a supporter. You can't make her want to get treatment...

It sucks. Honestly she ended up leaving me and the second day she was gone I checked myself into suicide watch. I don't want to live without her. We had it all and were perfectly in love and had so many hopes and dreams and plans and it was all gone in an instant...it's like she died.

 

[Loveherforever]

@Loveherforever - I'm so sorry she stopped her recovery and bailed on the relatio...

I'm not. I'm just trying to figure out how to breathe. My life was dark and depressing before we met and then I went to therapy for 2 years to get my shit straight so both of us could be happier and have a better life and she even went to therapy as well. But now everything is just gone and my life feels so empty.

 

[Deleted member 33287]

I'm not. I'm just trying to figure out how to breathe. My life was dark and depressing before we...

I know how you feel.

 

[EveHarrington]

I'm worried that you're overly attached to her in an unhealthy way. I understand how devastating heartbreak is, but it's quite concerning that you're suicidal.

If she comes back, I can say with much certainty that times of needing space will continue. Perhaps if you cannot handle this, then this isn't a relationship that's meant to be. I do not mean to discount your pain.