Name that distorted cognition (thought/perception)

[ms spock]

Noting these and refuting them more.

 

[Ronin]

Minimization & emotional reasoning.

Doing grounding techniques so I find center enough to look at current situations from some distance.
Writing about them meantime because humor adds light to depressive emotional reasoning.

 

[ms spock]

I am still on these - making small progress each day by being aware of them, and seeing them wherever I go.

 

[ms spock]

Working on these still.

 

[Ronin]

Disqualifying the positive tied in with minimization

Personalization tied in with listening to abuser introjects and perfectionism.

Ha. Tis thread is so enlightening to revisit.

 

[ms spock]

I am noticing these patterns in my thoughts more and more. It is helpful to realise how profoundly my thoughts, feelings and perceptions were/are distorted.

 

[ms spock]

I am having success at unpacking my distorted cognitions now.

So @blackemerald1 and @Nikie this might be of interest two you too?

***winks cheekily @Jass_T***

 

[anonymous]

I don't know if this is all-or-nothing, overgeneralization, or personalization.

I can't seduce one person, so I am sexually unattractive and defective.

 

[ms spock]

It could be part of all three, but I would put money on all or nothing.

 

[ms spock]

Disqualifying the positive -- You reject positive experiences by insisting they "don't count" for some reason or other. In this way you can maintain a negative belief that is contradicted by your everyday experiences.
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I maintained constant contact with this one for a long time, and I slip back there some days.

 

[VioletButterfly]

I'm just gathering up my skirts to tackle this as there is so much to wade through, but one I had this weekend that struck me is that I've been beating myself for letting my physical body go - like "How have I let myself get to this point, why don't I care what I look like....." Well, really, those aren't the right questions for me. What I think it would be healthier to address is: "Why/when did I stop caring about my health and when did I give up my power to fight back?" I've faced other physical challenges that have caused weight issues, but I think it's the weight and getting older together - I just feel like I can't "win," but there's another quandary - it's not about winning, it's about health. Very complex and am hoping my T can help me sort this out when she returns from holiday. I think it's tied up in worth, identity, never acknowledging what I do that is healthy, the past, and the never/forever lies. Ah...... it seems endless. VB

 

[Lucycat]

I absolutely know that I have attachment - and therefore trust issues.
Last night I dreamed that I learned of my husband's infidelity by a message written to me on his - er - male organ.
That is so crazy and stupid, and I have no waking-time reason to doubt him. But nonetheless I awoke with those thoughts in my mind
Luckily I can tell him, and then I can put such a dream to rest - until the next time.