Name that distorted cognition (thought/perception)

[ms spock]

:tup: @Chiqui Time to do it!

 

[Chiqui]

All or nothing thinking -- If I don't perform an unrealistic list of «haveto s», even though some of them haven't been identified, they are floating in «perfect life and being world», so you choose not to do a thing. No clever.

Over-generalization -- I always going to be like this, unfocused, lost and wondering around. Well, it would be easier if you wouldn't be trained for left your body outside and fly, fly, mind. Coercitive manipulation. It is not always neither forever. You are doing really well.

Mental filter -- Blaming all and alls for your frustrations is not taking you to anywhere decent. Are you having unrealistic self expectation? Make you a favour and truly help your self. Ground. Value everyday, please.

Disqualifying the positive -- Your everyday efforts are important. Repeat this along the day.

 

[ms spock]

Over generalisation.
All or nothing thinking.
Jumping to conclusions.
Mind reading.
Disqualifying the positive.

 

[ms spock]

Yeah still doing a fair bit of this - but my thinking is getting a little bit clearer.

 

[ms spock]

Minimisation
Jumping to conclusions
Mindreading
All or nothing thinking

 

[BLA]

I think I recognize myself in a few of these.
1. All or nothing thinking-Two of my kids are struggling and I feel like a total failure as a mom.
5. Jumping to conclusions-The bus isn't here when it is supposed to be so I must have done something wrong.
6. Minimizing-I can mimimize everything from the severity of my trauma, to it's impact on me and to the guilt of the perpetrators who hurt me.
7. Emotional reasoning-I feel such deep shame so I must be a bad person.
10. Personalization-Well the bus thing and the other day I was so overwhelmed with guilt thinking that I was aware of my younger sister's csa even though I was a victim along side her. I was 8 or 9 but somehow my guilt said somehow I should have protected her.

The crazy thing is I know these are so distorted but I can't seem to stop myself.

 

[ms spock]

7. Emotional reasoning-I feel such deep shame so I must be a bad person.
10. Personalization-Well the bus thing and the other day I was so overwhelmed with guilt thinking that I was aware of my younger sister's csa even though I was a victim along side her. I was 8 or 9 but somehow my guilt said somehow I should have protected her.

The crazy thing is I know these are so distorted but I can't seem to stop myself.

Me aussi with 7 and 10. And I also know these are terribly distorted but viscerally they "feel" real. So CBT and DBT are potential friends. There are some good sites on the web to work through things.

 

[ms spock]

I am working on just being with my friend, and not feeling up the space. Sometimes I can do it, I am listening mostly. I would like to be a good listening.

Still heaps of distorted cognitions - it is just going to take a fair bit of work, but I am committed to doing it.

 

[ms spock]

I am getting better at this. I really am getting better at this. Still a long way to go, but yes, I am getting better at this!

 

[ms spock]

The whole distorted cognition thing is most challenging at times.

 

[Chiqui]

Deny the positive. Why do I do It???

 

[ms spock]

I don't know @Chiqui - but for me it all comes from maladaptive behaviours to stay alive as a child. Maybe having a positive thing makes you fearful of it being taken away?

For me if I was having a good time with my little brother, my Father would come in and beat me, so being happy was linked with vicious physical attacks.

Minimisation
All or Nothing Thinking
Jumping to Conclusions - I seriously have a bit issue with this - projecting my parents on to everyone around me.
Mind readings as above with Jumping to Conclusions