Name that distorted cognition (thought/perception)

[Lionheart]

Over-generalizing and personalizing are things I need to stay aware of and re-frame on a daily basis....but 'emotional reasoning' tends to be the hardest distortion for me.and it is usually "I feel bad, therefore I am bad" but I have gotten better.

I am going to continue to allow myself to feel bad at times without beating myself up for it...I think it is the self-compassion challenge exercises that have enabled me to do this now.

 

[ms spock]

It is really amazing what happens to your life when you consistently work on these 10 distorted cognitions!

 

[UnKnown-Self]

Great thread and great idea! Its good to be aware of negative types of thinking. To list and keep track of how it affects one personally is an exercise in change. So here I go :)

There I went :(

I started off well enough but then too many non-deserving thoughts started flooding in. Now I'm crying because I "know" I am going to lose "everything" and rightfully so.

I will come back to this ....:chicken:

 

[VioletButterfly]

Just read the list again and can't quite determine which of the top 10/11 my above quandary might fit under. I'm taking it into my T, though, as she also treats a lot of ED clients, so I feel she might be able to help me untangle it. Maybe it's a combination, but after reviewing the list, I can see how I slip into a lot of those modes of thinking, especially minimizing the positive, black and white, basing thoughts on feelings... This is where the healing begins though. With the help of mindfulness and self-compassion, I hope to figure some of this out and move forward. I've been in survival mode, treading water, filling roles for 50 years, time to learn how to really live an unencumbered life. That's my hope anyway. Again, Ms. Spock, you have provided me with avenue down which to shop for hope. Thank you. VB

 

[ms spock]

I will come back to this ....:chicken:

Good idea.

I do it all the time.

 

[I'm not Spiderman]

One big old day of Number Nine.

Sometimes I have really good days and other times I am still in pyjamas having done nothing with myself except fret and stress and exist. I guess this is called balance? LOL

 

[ms spock]

Start wherever you are @I'm not Spiderman - and having a good sense of humour really helps in my opinion! Keep up that balance! ;)

These all came back strongly yesterday - rumination, jumping to conclusions, mind reading, fortune telling etc. They are tenacious little buggers!

 

[I'm not Spiderman]

@Ms Spock I have no idea where that phrase came from LOL it just happened. :p

I hope you are having a better day today!

 

[ms spock]

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-practice/201301/50-common-cognitive-distortions

I will put this here so I can come back to this later on, and if anyone is stumped about their thinking - well there are other options to consider here.

 

[Ronin]

Minimizing & entitlement.

Aka: survivor's guilt makes me believe I'm so special snowflake who just should have done more, even when others decided different and it's their thing & right & responsibility to decide for themselves.

 

[ms spock]

I did a bit of jumping to conclusions today -- You make a negative interpretation even though there are no definite facts that convincingly support your conclusion. (Involves mind-reading and fortune-telling.)

I am doing this in areas of my life that I didn't realise I was doing it. I have been jumping to conclusions and mind reading over what I think other people potentially think of me! Egads! It is a insidious way of thinking, that is much deeper in my thought patterns than I realised. It is like a never ending onion!

@Nikie you might be doing a bit of jumping to conclusions?

 

[Ronin]

I am still in pyjamas having done nothing with myself except fret and stress and exist.

You're doing it right. What else are mornings and pajama for if not for doing that exercise in fretting in them.