Hi, I am so thankful there is a community to ask questions and get more information on something I have no knowledge (but trying to read as much as I can now).
I recently triggered my girlfriend with PTSD, she ran and eventually texted me to say she didnt feel safe and wasn't coming home. I had no idea what was going on - I knew she had PTSD, but to be honest I didn't know I had a role to play in it (I do now). So, I asked her to come home so we can talk about what happened. I was stunned. I then said, I was going back to my place because this wasn't working. Well, that set off another trigger that I was unaware of (now, looking at it, omg I had no idea and I would have never said that if I had more information - i know, my fault, but i am trying now to understand). So, she then said she doesn't want me to text or contact her in any way. She will get a hold of me when she is ready. She definitely won't talk to me - and I am absolutely shattered. I love her. She said that she gets triggered around me and it isn't working. She is heartbroken and loves me but will never be able to have peace or calm in the relationship. I am at a lost.
Can someone explain what is happening? Any suggestion of what I can do to educate myself? And, are there any suggestions moving forward. I want to do what is best for her, but my heart needs to be protected cause I am a lot of pain, too.
Thank you for any comments or help you can provide. If I am being a jerk, please let me know. I really want to do what is best for her.
I recently triggered my girlfriend with PTSD, she ran and eventually texted me to say she didnt feel safe and wasn't coming home. I had no idea what was going on - I knew she had PTSD, but to be honest I didn't know I had a role to play in it (I do now). So, I asked her to come home so we can talk about what happened. I was stunned. I then said, I was going back to my place because this wasn't working. Well, that set off another trigger that I was unaware of (now, looking at it, omg I had no idea and I would have never said that if I had more information - i know, my fault, but i am trying now to understand). So, she then said she doesn't want me to text or contact her in any way. She will get a hold of me when she is ready. She definitely won't talk to me - and I am absolutely shattered. I love her. She said that she gets triggered around me and it isn't working. She is heartbroken and loves me but will never be able to have peace or calm in the relationship. I am at a lost.
Can someone explain what is happening? Any suggestion of what I can do to educate myself? And, are there any suggestions moving forward. I want to do what is best for her, but my heart needs to be protected cause I am a lot of pain, too.
Thank you for any comments or help you can provide. If I am being a jerk, please let me know. I really want to do what is best for her.