Hi all,
All of you may have noticed that I am pretty much a brand new member of this forum, so I’m JClarke which represents who I am. I am deaf and that’s the uniqueness of me. I am from Australia, in fact.
The reason I came across this forum, is because the story below will explain it all, and I am expressing my concern for the sake of my current wife, who is deaf too and I would love to get as much help and resource to save this.
Me and my wife, are currently separated, and it has been since early August, and my wife (not yet divorced) are involved in a new relationship with a new guy, who is hearing but that is another story.
The story behind this separation – we both got married last October, and we split on the 4th of August 2013, which has been a huge blow for me, because we both, as a couple have been wonderful. However, for the last 6 weeks so we both have gone through very rough time, especially for myself. We both have been very sad lately – we both are going through counselling sessions with a particular psychologist/counsellor from interstate who knows sign language. We both communicate entirely in sign language.
I just want to let you all know, I love my wife very much, my wife knows this but however, I have learnt something big which I have suspected it for a little while but I didn’t know how to express or tell to my wife what I have suspected and how she would react to this… with her first counselling session over the last weekend, she has realised what she have….and she told me last night when I visited her for coffee and dinner. She said that she have a bad case of PTSD and she showed me the symptoms and I read with her, and everything made sense to me, because I know her history with her family (and this affected our marriage) but know this, I am fighting to save our marriage, because I love her, and I love my wife for who she is, and she needs to remember that, and I do not want to throw out the marriage we have, at all. This PTSD is making her avoid trying to work this out, and I am hoping for the best that the counsellor will help the both of us, realise and I have and still am been there for her, whenever she needs it.
With this PTSD, this case has been affected her early age and has been for the last 16 years – my wife is 24 years old, I am 26. We both have been in the relationship for more than 2 years, and I have no intention to throw it out, because of this – I thought that she was cheating on me, but this PTSD discovery has made me realise what has affected us – and I want to save this, and show her that I am here for her and will always be on her side, for whatever reason.
How can I get this through together and make her realise, she can see me being the biggest supporter? I am the only person in her life right now; who knows about the certain truth….not even her ‘boyfriend’ that she is involved with. A lot of things in our relationship has triggered the PTSD of her own, and it was so hard for me to understand but I have been reading a lot about PTSD since I learned the specifics of it last night, and I now, realise and the other thing, I cannot afford to lose her and her family – who I am very fond of and especially the marriage that I am committed in.
There is also one thing – I am trying to understand, since we are currently separated, every time I visit her, at my house (which she lives there now) whenever I head home to my parents (temporary) she told me last night, that happens to her EVERY time I leave, she breaks down and cry. Does this show the love she have to me, or the PTSD?
Help?
All of you may have noticed that I am pretty much a brand new member of this forum, so I’m JClarke which represents who I am. I am deaf and that’s the uniqueness of me. I am from Australia, in fact.
The reason I came across this forum, is because the story below will explain it all, and I am expressing my concern for the sake of my current wife, who is deaf too and I would love to get as much help and resource to save this.
Me and my wife, are currently separated, and it has been since early August, and my wife (not yet divorced) are involved in a new relationship with a new guy, who is hearing but that is another story.
The story behind this separation – we both got married last October, and we split on the 4th of August 2013, which has been a huge blow for me, because we both, as a couple have been wonderful. However, for the last 6 weeks so we both have gone through very rough time, especially for myself. We both have been very sad lately – we both are going through counselling sessions with a particular psychologist/counsellor from interstate who knows sign language. We both communicate entirely in sign language.
I just want to let you all know, I love my wife very much, my wife knows this but however, I have learnt something big which I have suspected it for a little while but I didn’t know how to express or tell to my wife what I have suspected and how she would react to this… with her first counselling session over the last weekend, she has realised what she have….and she told me last night when I visited her for coffee and dinner. She said that she have a bad case of PTSD and she showed me the symptoms and I read with her, and everything made sense to me, because I know her history with her family (and this affected our marriage) but know this, I am fighting to save our marriage, because I love her, and I love my wife for who she is, and she needs to remember that, and I do not want to throw out the marriage we have, at all. This PTSD is making her avoid trying to work this out, and I am hoping for the best that the counsellor will help the both of us, realise and I have and still am been there for her, whenever she needs it.
With this PTSD, this case has been affected her early age and has been for the last 16 years – my wife is 24 years old, I am 26. We both have been in the relationship for more than 2 years, and I have no intention to throw it out, because of this – I thought that she was cheating on me, but this PTSD discovery has made me realise what has affected us – and I want to save this, and show her that I am here for her and will always be on her side, for whatever reason.
How can I get this through together and make her realise, she can see me being the biggest supporter? I am the only person in her life right now; who knows about the certain truth….not even her ‘boyfriend’ that she is involved with. A lot of things in our relationship has triggered the PTSD of her own, and it was so hard for me to understand but I have been reading a lot about PTSD since I learned the specifics of it last night, and I now, realise and the other thing, I cannot afford to lose her and her family – who I am very fond of and especially the marriage that I am committed in.
There is also one thing – I am trying to understand, since we are currently separated, every time I visit her, at my house (which she lives there now) whenever I head home to my parents (temporary) she told me last night, that happens to her EVERY time I leave, she breaks down and cry. Does this show the love she have to me, or the PTSD?
Help?
