Nothing Good To Move On To

[Deleted member 1860]

You're a prisoner of your own mind and don't want to be helped. You are condescending toward those who try to help you. This is nothing more than an argument thread . I'll be moving on to better things in my life . Good luck being a victim of your ptsd and throwing a pity party!

Wake the EFF up! Who the hell do you think you're talking to?!? NOBODY here has a life of their own construct in regards to the trauma! We have ALL been derailed! Don't give me this BS.

If you want pity, you're not getting it here.

 

[Casey_03]

Also, @LifeCutShort - I think the feeling you are experiencing might be part of recovery, as strange as that sounds. I feel the same way you do on a daily basis, so I know how it is. I think we all do, so you're not alone in this. But sometimes feeling this low is just part of the process, unfortunately.

 

[shimmerz]

usually do so by moving on to something good in their lives. An example is finding love.

I had a ton of great things in my life before my PTSD hit. Slowly but surely they have all be disassembled. Surely, completely. That had to be though because I have been rebuilding myself. I looked at the losses and it was difficult not to mourn and think that I had nothing left. I guess the change came when I reframed it.

I now have a chance to build whatever I want in my life. I can make better choices. I get to choose. It can be overwhelming at times because there are so many options and it has clearly been my choice if it all goes to hell along the way, but honestly, I am grateful for this chance to rebuild.

As far as love goes....love is meant to be for yourself first and then you share it. The end goal of healing, imho is not to 'get or find love'. It is to be love.

 

[sun seeker]

I don't know you but from what I see you live in one of the greatest country on this earth. People do drown to get into a country like yours (or mine nowadays). Is living in a country like this not anything to look forward to any day in your life? I am not trying to be mean - just try to point out your blessings.

The thing is, when a person is as depressed as the OP seems to be, it is impossible to really feel those blessings even if you can recognize on an intellectual level that you have them. When I pointed out a few apparent blessings it was to challenge the cognitive bias expressed, but I do know that it might not be possible to change the associated feelings at this point.

 

[Notsowild]

Hey Queen of the "pity party" here. I was sexually and physically abused my whole childhood, married young to an abusive man. I was fighting dissociation and panic attacks for years. Then came the near fatal car accident and alas a new verbally abusive manager. These incidents have brought on a whole new set of crazy symptoms.

Yes I still have that "poor me" syndrome. I still have lots to work on. I too have thought I have nothing to look forward to. But now I think volunteering- helping people less fortunate than me, child abuse advocate, telling my story through a campaign we have ( Bell- let's talk) about destigmatizing mental illness. Even working with animals, they were my best friends through my horrific childhood.

So coming from experience I understand you completely. I still haven't got there yet but I know there is still a life out there. We could go on this journey together.

Edited to add: Love,sex and relationships have been hard for me. I have not dated since my accident. I try though not to dwell on it. I know I'll find love when I'm healthier. But first I have to learn to love myself.

 

[LifeCutShort]

@Lemontree

I don't know you but from what I see you live in one of the greatest country on this earth. People do drown to get into a country like yours (or mine nowadays). Is living in a country like this not anything to look forward to any day in your life? I am not trying to be mean - just try to point out your blessings.

In general, what you say is true, but my specific circumstance has made it so that I can never move on to anything, I do not wish to go into the details but my life is permanently over.

 

[LifeCutShort]

@sunseeker

The thing is, when a person is as depressed as the OP seems to be, it is impossible to really feel those blessings even if you can recognize on an intellectual level that you have them.

You are not blessed when your life, under certain circumstance, is destroyed and you permanently have nothing to move on to.

 

[shimmerz]

but my life is permanently over

When you take your last breath it is. There are a ton of people who cannot move their whole bodies that do motivational speeches, reach out to help others, write books, a ton of things. I don't think we can actually help you if you continue to tell us that due to circumstances your life is over but can't tell us what that is. I am not digging, but you realize you are pulling a trump card that is not helping you? There is no point posting saying that your life is over but you can't say why. Responding seems a bit of a waste here and knowing this group, we would like to help.

You are making that impossible. Or is that the intention? Do you want us all to just agree and say that your life is not worthwhile? I won't.

 

[sun seeker]

@LifeCutShort, I think what you are finding here are a lot of people challenging what looks like a cognitive distortion, and you keep telling us it's real and not a cognitive distortion but not wanting to explain why your life is permanently over. We'd like to help, but it's hard without further information. Can you give us a sense of what you are looking for so we can help better?

 

[sun seeker]

You are making that impossible. Or is that the intention? Do you want us all to just agree and say that your life is not worthwhile?

Not trying to copy @shimmerz, honest. I just said the same thing in a slightly different way at the same moment. @LifeCutShort, if you want empathy, we need more information as to what we are empathizing with. If you want solutions, ditto. Please help us out here.

 

[Casey_03]

@LifeCutShort I agree with the posters above that it might help us to know more details. It's hard to post anything useful without knowing what the circumstances are ... it might help you to share too, no? If not, no worries, I just feel bad seeing that you are clearly depressed and we can't offer you much of anything without knowing more ...

 

[Deleted member 28812]

@Lemontree


In general, what you say is true, but my specific circumstance has made it so that I can never move on to anything, I do not wish to go into the details but my life is permanently over.

Why do you think so? Are you sure it is the truth or maybe you just feel like this but it isn't true...