• We are a multilingual website again. Read the notice about this.
  • Understand AI use at MyPTSD: all AI use is explained in our AI help page. AI use is by choice here. It exists if you want it, but does nothing unless you choose to use it.

Other Our apartment burned

Status
Not open for further replies.
I have experienced a house fire. I understand all the feelings you are having and mine started when I was not home. I came home to destruction. I had a number of cats at the time and a passerby seeing the smoke kicked in the front door letting my cats out.

And you will come to let that leaf represent your strength as time passes. May seem silly to you now, but it is representative of a beautiful time in your life.

Hard for us that have always had the job of being tough and strong to allow ourselves to just fall apart. Because that is what is normal at a time like this. To fall apart.

We are here for you to remind you it's ok to cry. And to sleep. And to grieve your losses and your friend's losses. My hurt hurts for what you are feeling and experiencing. Please keep us updated as to how you and your family and friend are making it thru this tragic event.

Heart hugs if you accept.
 
I have experienced a house fire. I understand all the feelings you are having and mine started when I was not home. I came home to destruction. I had a number of cats at the time and a passerby seeing the smoke kicked in the front door letting my cats out.

And you will come to let that leaf represent your strength as time passes. May seem silly to you now, but it is representative of a beautiful time in your life.

Hard for us that have always had the job of being tough and strong to allow ourselves to just fall apart. Because that is what is normal at a time like this. To fall apart.

We are here for you to remind you it's ok to cry. And to sleep. And to grieve your losses and your friend's losses. My hurt hurts for what you are feeling and experiencing. Please keep us updated as to how you and your family and friend are making it thru this tragic event.

Heart hugs if you accept.

I don't know why but this hit me really hard. Thank you.

The donation drive has found a rat cage for us already. We're going to put our two old men in it since our solo boys come out of their evacuation carriers more often to socialize with us. (If anyone out there knows rats, no we don't choose to keep them separate, our local SPCA gives us the rats that refuse to integrate with other mischiefs because we are home a lot and have the time to spend with them, they usually get 6+ hours a day out with us so they don't get lonely or depressed. We currently have two solos and a bonded pair, all boys). I don't know what we would have done without the evacuation kit we built 2 years ago. It consists of carriers for each animal (bonded boys share) that were kept under the respective cages and tanks (we also have 2 leopard geckos, a bearded dragon, and a hognose snake) and a box of emergency heat pads, extra food dishes and water bottles, and dry food for a week and we kept that in the car. Our pet food store gave us live mealies and more kibble when they found out. They also sent a pallet of dog and cat food to the hotel we're all staying in so when this is all over I don't care if we end up two towns over we are buying all our supplies from them. They're a little one off store run by a pair of sisters.

We live in BC and we're getting a lesson in just why Canadians have the reputation they do. Each of us is being given $150 for clothes and $50 for toiletries. There are victim support, mental health, housing, and income assistance staff in the building most of the day in one of the conference rooms and some random locals have started a donation drive group on Facebook that is organising clothes, shoes, and childcare essentials for now and discussing furniture donation solutions to kick in once we've found housing. Because of the long weekend we're being put up in a hotel (currently closed to anyone except residents and support workers) for 2 weeks and they're giving us three hot meals a day.

They're tracking down a cane for me.

I keep crying every time someone does something nice. I almost wish people were meaner so I could stay angry. I know how to control anger.

Oh yeah, a children's group donated a mountain of chocolate eggs and baskets so the kids from the building are getting an Easter egg hunt in the conference room.
 
It's a beautiful thing for people to come together to help us when something so hard happens. It also shows us we don't always have to be 'strong'. It's enough to be 'grateful'. And I can tell by your words that you are.

Glad all the 'babies' are safe and you have everything you need for them for the next while. Good idea to keep the 'go' stuff in the car!!

Love your integrity. By shopping with the Sisters from the Pet Store in the future, is a beautiful thing. That is one way you are being 'strong' by the way. Keep that in mind.

Wish you, hubby and your friend a good nights rest and remember to take care of yourself.

Well wishes for the future. And well wishes for today.
 
@Kamorth , my heart goes out to you and your family.

I find myself at a loss for words, and I can only imagine what you are going through right now.

I am so glad that you and your family are safe. So glad you've had some sleep, that you have each other, and that you got the bagel you wanted (family and the "little" things are everything in times like this).

Thoughts, strength, and so much kindness to you and yours.
 
Kamorth I'm really sorry for what has happened to you and your family. I'm glad you, your loved ones, and the pets were able to make it out safely. It sounds like people are really stepping up and trying to help as much as they can, however they can.

the evacuation kit we built 2 years ago

you guys are amazing for having this!


I keep crying every time someone does something nice

I lost my place in a wildfire a number of years ago. I was lucky, I was moving in at the time so I lost the place but not my stuff (it ended up in storage about 3 hours away with no way to access it for almost a year). I was homeless for a long while, and was finally moved into emergency housing. A group of kids had collected money, and came around before Christmas with small trees and ornaments for those of us in shared housing, and sang carols. It was amazing. And I bawled like a baby (I don't do emotion, so that was a big deal). It's like the nicer people were, the harder it was.

However you are feeling, is the right feeling. And if it changes from moment to moment, that's right too. You can be supportive, and be supported too. And remember we are all here for you. :hug:
 
Multiple people have been told to let the rest of us know not to call about certain rental homes now because the landlords don't rent to people like us. As soon as someone says they're from our building, their references and history don't matter, they're not getting in. Out of 40 households, one has found somewhere and it was with family.

Going in to try to salvage our stuff has become "give us a list of important things from these options only and someone will go look for them for you". Not because the building is unsafe to enter (the part with salvageable apartments is structurally sound) but because the landlords' insurance company doesn't want us to enter since technically we're not tenants anymore.

I don't know what to do.
 
What country are you in @Kamorth and what is meant by 'people like us'?

I am so sorry to hear this as you do not need these obstacles while trying to put your life back together. My heart breaks for you and your family. Thinking of you.
 
What country are you in @Kamorth and what is meant by 'people like us'?

We're in BC Canada. Our building was de facto low income housing. Privately owned but the tenants were all people who would be in low income housing if they were eligible. People with disabilities but no kids, new immigrants, students, non-traditional families, the kind of people who slip through the cracks.

My family is pretty typical of the families in the building. We've never been late on our rent, we've gotten all our damage deposits back in the past, we never had interactions with the police. We had been in our apartment for 2 years and my husband and I were in a bachelor suite in the other wing for 3 years before that. When we got our roommate we needed more space and the building manager wanted to keep us as tenants so badly that he jumped us to the head of the queue and knocked $100 a month off the rent for us. We have friends who have been in the building for 2 decades. Most of the faces I'm seeing around the hotel are people I've been discussing the weather with by the mailboxes for years.

But we're poor and about 70%of us are native or otherwise not white (I'm not, I'm a white immigrant, but my husband and stepson are native and my best friend/qpp is Japanese American) so... Yeah. People like us.
 
Is there not a website for such emergencies? I know this sounds naive. But I live in the States and there is a f'n website for EVERYTHING. Not that we get help, but it's there.

I also live in low-income housing. Under the same guidelines as yours. But I don't see there would be such blatant discrimination if the same things were to happen to our housing.

Hopefully, there will be someone here that can help you. If all else fails, start a thread on how to get help clarifying where you are and what is going on. People from all over the world here.

Sincere hope you get some help and a roof over your head soon. Many heart hugs to you.
 
Turning us away like they are is illegal here but because none of us have the money to take anyone to court over it, it's one of those only illegal on paper things. If we were to try to fight it all they'd do is say there were other reasons that are totally legal.

With covid the rental market is dead. There are 40 families competing for like a dozen properties and at least half of them aren't even considering us. We're in a hotel, normally emergency services covers a week but in light of current events and the fact that it's Easter we're getting two. After that though...
 
I'm so sorry. Surely someone will take your cases out of the goodness of humanity. I can hope. Please keep us updated. I can't imagine how you are feeling. But keep posting. If nothing else you do not have to feel alone.

Not much solace to your present circumstances I know.

sending lots of energy for solutions.
 
Status
Not open for further replies.

Donation drives

2026 Donation Goal

Goal
$1,800.00
Earned
$910.00
This donation drive ends in
0 hours, 0 minutes, 0 seconds
  50.6%

Trending content

Featured content

Back
Top Bottom