Paying for therapy, and feeling guilt

[nowthisisme]

Hey, did she ever mention increasing the rate?
I don't think you mentioned anything about her talking about increasing the rate?

So you are worried that if you talk about your financial situation being better then your T will ask for an increase? Yet you have been with her for 2 years and she's never asked for an increase.

I think your thinking way to much into it.

If she was concerned about her rate she would have mentioned something earlier.

But like everyone said, this can be something you can work on with her. Feeling guilty for wanting to make your life easier and thinking she deserves it more then you comes from somewhere.

If this is bothering, talk to her and find out where these feeling come from.

You are a mother, wife, and teacher if anyone deserves an increase in their rate, it's YOU!

Keep up all the good work you have done!

 

[Scarlet13]

No, she has never mentioned an increase in the rate. I did bring it up about 8 mos ago because I was talking about how I will likely be in therapy for a while and she said if she chose to raise her rates it would be incrementally which sounded good to me.

But my husband is doing better and we want to move and when I talked about this I felt so awkward and I emphasized how we just want a really affordable house to move into and I down played the success of his job.

It is stuck in my head this idea that just as soon as I have a bit more I need to pay her and not use it for other areas of my life.
I won't see her till next fri so plenty of time to obsess over it.
I have even been practicing what to say to her about her rate outloud.
I don't want to come across like a jerk, like I don't want to pay her.
I am just going to say that the current rate works well for me especially because before it was tricky and that I will pay her more when I can?
Uggh I don't know!
This is obviously coming from my parents.
I am sure it will work well once I am in front of her. She is easy to talk to and I know feels ok about the current rate because I am coming 4 to 5 times a mos.

I think I just need to keep explaining to myself that I don't need to rehearse because she is very approachable and that I am really trying to be fair to both of us and not trying to "cheat" her.