As long as they’re not dead I can still call them, from almost anywhere on the planet, and if we’re both local? I can set up a one off appt whenever the heck I want to, or even resume therapy.- How did you deal with feelings of intense sadness/loss/grief when ending with a therapist? Did you find anything that helped with this?
The relationship isn’t ending because of something big bad and terrible, and I’m not cutting them out of my life forever and always because of that big bad terrible thing.
I still occasionally touch base with some of my fave therapists. The same way I still occasionally touch base with some of my favorite professors, colleagues, my kids’ doctors, etc. I’m not as good at networking semi-socially / semi-professionally as most people I know… who keep running lists of interesting and valuable people dialed into their lives, so that the contact is always active/viable. I can do it professionally very easily, but I’m a hardcore isolator who has a tendency of just “walking away” from both their entire life, and aspects of their life. Chapter? Closed. Moving on. But I do still touch base, from time to time. Because I can. And they’re not evil f*cks who should die screaming. So it ain’t a black and white thing.