Thank you for sharing. Your partner is lucky. I did discuss this issue with my husband last night. He did not think I was trying to manipulate him by sharing what I did, but he also agreed with my theory that he is saturated emotionally so he doesn't react to anything anymore. I said that's dangerous and he said he agrees.We're not all like that, and I hope you find someone in your life who takes the time to listen....really listen, and educate themselves so they can be healthy support.
It's the consequences of my behavior though. I mean, he has a part to play. His minimizing, denial, defensiveness etc contributed to the situation. But I've been so demanding and needy that I don't really blame him for feeling like he does. I'm an exhausting person.