General Posting As A Carer And Sufferer - Healing My Son

[becvan]

Thanks Kathy.

Matt had to return to the hospital last night. So I cooked a roast yesterday and we had Ryan and two of his kids over. Today... well the phones are shut off and I'm here.

Have a lovely Thanksgiving Kathy, and the Kitchen party.. made me want to come and play my dobro with you all...

bec

 

[Kathy]

You and Matt are welcome at our home anytime Bec. I would love to hear you play! Do take care and keep us updated on Matt. I hope your day with the phones shut off is restful for you.

 

[becvan]

Thank you. Hopefully someday I can afford a trip and Matt and I could come visit. Perhaps by that time he will know a tune he can play on the fiddle ;) We are both learning Celtic style right now (him the fiddle and me the guitar) and we are both rather excited!

Yesterday was okay. After dropping Matt back off at the hospital, I stayed home and cried. I hate dropping my baby off there. He should be home by Friday. Both of us are very lonely for each other and both very depressed. I want him home, he wants to come home. Today has been very depressing and I'm just trying to keep even-keeled. I also have to be cheerful on the phone for Matt, as he's very homesick. I just keep telling myself and him that it's just a few more days.

bec

 

[jods]

It's almost over Bec & he will be home soon.

Sending you a hug because I can!

 

[Kathy]

Sounds most difficult Bec. Everytime one of mine has been admitted I have wanted to stay at the hospital with them day and night, which obviously is not possible or practical. Friday is not much longer, however 4 days can seem like an eternity when you are depressed and missing a loved one. Take care Bec, you have done very well.

 

[pandora]

Take care Bec, you are in my thoughts.

 

[becvan]

Matt comes home tomorrow. I called and made all the arrangements today. Funnily, if I hadn't of called, they wouldn't have released him despite having arranged it last week! These people keep horrible notes.

I'm just glad it's done. I really feel it was quite the waste of time.

Matt will be starting full time school on Monday and I'm so looking forward to getting him back home!

bec

 

[Kathy]

I am sorry it did not work out Bec, but wonderful for you both that he is coming home today. Did he ever receive that MRI?

 

[becvan]

Yes, they did it yesterday. I'm glad they did it, finally, but wasn't very impressed with them. I picked Matt up for his fiddle lesson and he was acting weird. They never told me he had been sedated! He was completely drugged up and it was a waste of a lesson. I was kinda pissed about that. I would have been better off to cancel the damn thing instead.

I go and get him at four (just under four hours! woo hoo!) and had to laugh. The SW called and told me he's just getting a weekend pass. But I just need to call Monday and assure them that everything is all right and they will do his release papers.

Even if something horrible happened (which it won't, this is my kid we are talking about here) he's not going back there. I thought it was funny that they are just trying to hang on for no apparent reason. Tough shit for them.

I can't wait for four!

bec

 

[jods]

Enjoy your family time together when Matt returns.
Hope you have a great weekend.

 

[Jim]

Ah splendid Bec you got your boy back. Bloody awful experience you and he had. Really too bad. Have to wonder about our mental health system sometimes. Maybe we need to clone Kathleen and a few other goodies to make up for all the idiots out there. ;-)

Jim.

 

[becvan]

Hehe, I'd go for Cloning her! We definitely need more SW's in this world with her sense of compassion, knowledge and common sense!

Matt is all tucked into bed now. It's a comforting thing.. hehe..

bec