Probably just self-pity

[Freida]

Yes to everything @DharmaGirl said!

the last?
Having a problem is a statement of fact. This/that/the other is not working as it should. Covers lots and lots of different kinds of things. But basically - it's tangible

Being a problem? When you know something is wrong and yet you do nothing about it, then you demand other people do it for you.

911 example -- The moms that call 911 to ask for a cop to come put their child (like 2 or 4 or 5 years old) to bed. Yep - happens far more than you would imagine.

Having a problem? They have issues with their children.
Being a problem? They actually expect law enforcement to come to their house and tell their kid to go to bed. Plus they are tying up 911 lines for real emergencies.

If it helps -- if I see you crossing into that line I will happily call you out on it.

 

[Muttly]

Sorry I took a break from this thread. I have appreciated the answers. Been trying to be ok. Whatever that means.

In answer to the first question, if you weren't trying to heal you wouldn't be posting looking for help.

Being a problem? When you know something is wrong and yet you do nothing about it, then you demand other people do it for you.

I guess, I just can't tell if I'm actually trying or not. I guess I feel like if I was truly trying, I would be farther along. Or managing things better. Something like that.

I've never been the can't get out of bed because of depression type of person. I've always gone more towards self-destruction type of depression. But right now, it would be so easy to just stay in bed. And I'm not entirely doing that. I'm trudging through some stuff, but I'm staying in bed more than I should.

And what if deep down, some insiders want to be rescued? Which never happens. But if we are wanting that, isn't that expecting someone to solve our problems?

If it helps -- if I see you crossing into that line I will happily call you out on it.

Yes actually. It does. And I think T said something similar.

 

[Freida]

I guess I feel like if I was truly trying, I would be farther along. Or managing things better. Something like that.

holy crap I just....as in 20 minutes ago...said this to my t!
her take -- icepick meet iceberg.
We just have to trust in others to help us see the progress we are making

But if we are wanting that, isn't that expecting someone to solve our problems?

Nice try
They aren't expecting someone to solve your problems
They are expecting you to solve your problems - YOU are their rescuer
You are who they want to trust to save them.
You will get there - one itty bitty step at a time,