Relationship Ptsd Girlfriend Breaking Up

[Lostandbroken]

I do truly love her enough to not let her go, the events of the last few months have shown me how much I do love her. Contact was made last night, I let her know how much I care and love her, and will be there no matter what. I let her know that I now have some understanding of what she is going through due to reading up and gaining insight from others. She really seemed to appreciate that.
The relationship is still in limbo I guess, I didn't ask her for any answers and let her know that she needs to get through this and then we can see where we stand. But I will be there for her through it if she wants me to be.
I couldn't have even got to this point if it wasn't for the replies to my post, so I thank you all from the bottom of my heart.
I know this is far from over but feel comfort that I can work with her as I now understand a lot more about this terrible thing she is going through.
Today is the anniversary of her trauma, I don't know what that will bring for her and scares me that I can't be there for her like I was unless she reaches out, I plan to take her a bunch of flowers and a card and reassure her I am there if needed

 

[kenziii]

I do truly love her enough to not let her go, the events of the last few months have shown me how...

That would be great :) bring her flowers and show her love :) of course she does appreciate that :) no need to thank i wish i was able to understand it before i let go and i totally understand what you are passing through . Love is stronger than mental illness and you should prove it god willing :) i wish you both the best :) hope everything will go in its right place :) just be patient :)

 

[anthony]

I think your rollercoaster ride is far from over, speaking honestly based on what you have outlined. Sorry to say that, but I'm calling it as I read it.

The fact that she cheated is telling me personally just how bad PTSD is affecting her right now, combined with the on and off again aspect. Like above, anniversary, hospital, all a lot of stress.

Something I read though about going inpatient to fix this... won't happen. PTSD does not work like that. You can't attend some inpatient program and come out all better, that is not going to happen with PTSD. You go to these programs to get insight and learn skills, it then takes years to put all that into practice in your life, let alone you need to continue learning new skills, adapting and refining.

You need to think years for this, if you continue with her. Yes, it is a good sign she quite to distance herself, but again, she did it, so trust is now blown. That will sit in the back of your head forever. That is now a new issue added to the equation in which you both have to deal with.

My advice for you is to read just one book at this stage: Dead Link Removed

There are kids involved, and at the end of the day you have responsibilities to more than just her, but also to your kids. By the way, kudos on the job you're doing thus far, huge credit. Kids, girlfriend with PTSD, near step child... a lot going on for you.