I agree on the point of insecurity. I have never been 100% myself around any of my family. I live with my father now, who is an abuser, and I have found out that I absolutely cannot let my guard down and be myself around him. I won't allow myself to be that vulnerable. I don't like the feeling of being another person and saying things I wouldn't normally say, but I'm glad that I can at least recognize that it's not really who I am.