Should I Blame Myself. ...

[Fadeaway]

Jass, you can press charges for such behavior. I would tell him that you will report him, at the very least to the gym if he doesn't turn around and walk away next time he sees you. He assaulted you. No one has the right to put their hand on you if you don't want them too.

 

[J_trustno1]

Thanks @Fadeaway. Does that mean I don't need to hide. I can still go there whatever time I wish to go? Secondly, the other guy who was listening to this old man ranting always annoys me by asking if I've found a job yet? He always says things in way to show how useless and jobless I am for not looking for job. What do I tell him next time to shut him up?

 

[Heather]

@Jass_T I echo fadeaway.... NO ONE has the right to touch you if you don't want them to. People can be such incredible a$$holes. It sounds like these men are exactly that.

I would definitely file a complaint with the gym management. They should be aware of just how inappropriate their behavior is. In my opinion this is a battle to be "picked".

I wish you luck and am sending you positive images for being strong.

Hugs.

Heather

 

[void]

@Heather : thanks for the honest answer. Well, the person who was rude to me is a 76 ye...

It is sexual assault when a man slaps your ass!
Fvcking asshole POS!:mad::mad:
Clearly, he did NOT have even implied consent and it was an unwanted sexual act.

You are obviously not at fault for this.:hug:

These males are WRONG.:mad:
They have no right to treat you this way.

You have the right to NOT talk to him if you don't want to.

You are a good and brilliant woman:hug:, you've never deserved or caused any of the mistreatment you've rec'd in your entire life.:hug:

 

[J_trustno1]

All 3 of them are wankers! I had no self esteem or confidence to speak up when this shit happened but now I have learned that I will NOT sit quietly if this ever happens again. 2013 was the year when I was suicidal and severly depressed and diagnosed with Ptsd and that is when this shit happened but not anymore.

 

[Heather]

@Jass_T You go girl! Use that anger to your advantage. If you direct it in a positive way it can be very empowering. That is exactly what you are doing. Good for you!

Hugs.

Heather

 

[J_trustno1]

Thanks @Heather :hug:s. Thanks @void , @Fadeaway, @Cashew, @ghotiff and @Neverthesame. You guys are true hero's for helping and supporting me and others. Thank you beautiful people, hopefully I'll be able to sleep properly tonight :hug:s :).

 

[Heather]

@Jass_T Here's to hoping you get some restful zzzzzz's:)

 

[Fadeaway]

Thanks @Fadeaway. Does that mean I don't need to hide. I can still go there whatever...

No, you do not have to hide, and if the gym employees no that you are a regular there, they aren't going to want to lose a loyal customer so the will have your back.

As far as what to say to the guy? You could say something like, "I have some very exciting thing going on in my life, and a very promising opportunity that and traditional employment would only interfere right now."

Everything in that statement is the truth based on things you have mentioned here. He doesn't need to know details or what those things are. Hopefully that will shut him up.

May or may not edit for grammar later.

 

[J_trustno1]

Thanks @Fadeaway for giving a real insight. I'm sick of hiding from people and running away from jerks. I want to face it. All this event made me so negative about my course, future employment and future relationship where I ended up thinking that I have no hope in dealing with people or relationships based on my own experiences. Thanks once again :hug:s.

Thanks @Heather, goodnight from the future ;) :hug:s.

 

[Go Hungry]

Nope. You aren't responsible for another persons actions. And believe you me, there is no end of issues that can make a good person be mean. Maybe they've got something rotten in them, maybe it's a temporary thing, or a misunderstanding, a failure of communication. Or maybe they're just plain awful and really good at hiding it. It doesn't mean that you are flawed in some way because you don't know exactly what somebody is going to do in 5 years.

Nobody can do that. Nobody can see the future of even 5 minutes, much less 5 years.

And like others have said, people change.. Maybe they were the best person ever, but something made them turn bad. I, for instance, I'm mean. I have issues that stretch back 20 years that sometimes make me behave horribly to people. I try as hard as I can not to let them, but sometimes I fail. It's just a human thing.