OptimisticRealist
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So, my SO was recently diagnosed with cptsd and a pretty severe form of dissociation. She "switched" recently and asked her abusive ex to stay in our house with her to help with the kids, even though normally when he's in town he takes the kids to his mom's. I can't live there because of the moral clause in their divorce, but normally I'm there from the time I get off work until bedtime. We got the house as a safe space from him where he was never to be allowed to come, and up until the last few days, that has been the way things have gone. But something happened, don't know what, and she has reverted back to thinking he needs to be helping her. Whatever parts of her mind that are aware of the abuse she suffered at his hands are not in control right now, and I don't know what to do. I'm on the outside right now living a nightmare knowing the man who raped her, beat her, choked her, gaslit her,.etc is under our roof in our safe space. I have an appt tomorrow with our therapist to ask her advice on how to handle this gently, without scaring my SO or making it worse. Does anyone have any experience with anything like this????