She is hiding from everyone, not just me. Her ex and her kids are the only people she's seeing in person, and he's keeping the kids at his mom's some, too. It's not like I haven't seen her at all, we watched a movie together Sunday night, and I saw her briefly Tuesday when I had to grab something from the house. But she's beating herself up really badly right now for "being the poison in the well" and her shame/fear makes her isolate so the people she cares about won't make it worse somehow. Distorted thinking, but she's never known anything except trauma and neglect and abuse, so her road to healing is going to be a long one. And she's still barely gotten started.So she cannot be around you at all right now?
I'm just going to focus on work and spending time with friends and family for now. Trying to stay balanced and as healthy as I can.
But they have kids together, so that complicates things, because they need to be taken care of when she's unable to.
I am not sure I understand this, Alabama is a no fault divorce state meaning if he wanted this requirement it just means that the divorce is considered "contested" rather than "uncontested", it makes divorce a bit more complicated but was not the only way she could get the divorce.he wouldn't agree to a divorce without it (because of me), so it was either moral clause, or no divorce.
. If you've known her for 9 years then you would have encountered a similar situation in that amount of time
. You would have already dealt with this part of her whether you realized it or not