General Taking Care Of Me

[AdamAnt]

thems sea oats!!

 

[amethist]

Turned out not to be zoo weather either on Saturday, so we took them to a children's museum type place, more educational for kids than a museum.

They had a great time playing in a a giant mouth, playing in a kids sized garage, taking play money out of a bank with cards, seeing how a toilet flushed, then talking to a robot made from junk. This was fun, a robot made from a dustbin and all sorts of junk, with a web cam and speakers. Somewhere abouts there was a guy sat with a monitor and mic, having a real conversation with the kids, they were fascinated, but not scared. There faces were a picture, trying to work out how it could talk with no tonger, but they loved it. They asked all sorts of questions and they got really good answers from it, whoever was doing the talking at the other end was well versed in kids conversations.

But my poor daughter had a bit of a rough deal later in the day. We were about to take them home from our house, when she trapped her finger in the car door, after stopping Harry trapping his. It's not broken but very badly bruised on the joint, guna hurt for ages it that.

Amethist

Question for AdamAnt. what the heck have sea oats got to do with all this, I'm completely lost with this one. Your guna have to explain yourself, or they will be locking you up and throwing away the key. :rofl:

 

[Iam]

Ha...I can't figure out the sea oats either Adam!


Glad you had such a fun time with your gk's Amethist! I used to take our boys to the local childrens' museum and now take my granddaughters there. Though it has grown substantially since our boys were young. I think or GD's are the biggest joy in my husbands and my lives. Oh to have just a smidgeon of their energy and simple delight!

 

[amethist]

The butterfly effect has begun, starting at the top and working down

Yesterday I finally had my hair cut, and I mean cut. from being almost waist length at the back to collar length all round. Hubby is not impressed for now, his reasons for me keeping it long were not the same as mine. It did need it though, it was too fine at the ends and the layers did not sit right anymore, it was breaking and splitting badly.

Next willl be a facial, though this I can and will do myself. Can't push the expense too far, hubby wil get worried, LOL. He already joked about a strange women being in the house. MM, he needs to remember who turned her strange. :rofl:

Amethist

 

[Grama-Herc]

I hope you don't mind but I've been reading this thread. While I am not a carer of a ptsd victim, I am a carer. I had hoped to gain either some insight or help dealing with life as a care giver to a loved one. And as I expected, I did.

You wrote in one post about mounring the loss of your husband as you knew him before. It made me realize that I have not done that yet with my mother. I keep trying to make her be the person she was before and all that does is cause frustration, anger, disagreements and hurt feelings for both of us.

How do you keep those issues under control and out of your life? Because no matter what kind issue our loved one is dealing with, as carers, we all have the same basic problems. How do we care for ourselves and keep our sanity?????

 

[cherryblossom]

Amethist,

Are you 'light-headed' now, without all that hair?! Good for you, for taking care of yourself. It will take so much less time looking after, and if hubby is concerned about money - just tell him how much less you will be spending on shampoo!

 

[amethist]

I don't mind you reading my this thread at all Grama-Herc. Mourning the loss of my husband would never have occurred to me, to be one of the things I had to do, had it not being for my own support worker, saying this to me. But it did make a lot of sense at the time, and it has made so much difference in our relationship.

Trying to get them to be how they were before, really does not work. Encouraging them to be as well and as positive as they can be does. So what if they can.t do toast under the grill anymore, because they forget and it burns, buy a toaster instead. If they forget no harm done, apart from cold toast and a bit of wasted bread. In other words help them to do the same things, but in a different way.

How do we keep our sanity, while all this is going on, knowing when to walk a way for a few hours before the volcano erupts, does help. A bigger sense of humour has to be one of major get outs for a lot of mis-haps. Growing the skin of a Rhino is a must, as well as having the patience of a Saint.

Definitely light headed now CherryBlossom. Pity I ended up looking like a shaggy dog today though, after all this wind and rain, I had to go out in. As for saving money on shampoo and conditioner, mmm hubby would disagree on that one. Shower gels and shampoos are my down fall, good job I can now learn to make more of my own, that will keep the cost down LOL.

Amethist

 

[amethist]

Time to take some care of myself big style, before things go un-necessarily pear shaped.

Tomorrow I am going to see a surgeon about having my gall bladder taking out. It cannot really be left any longer, as it is beginning to cause more problems. I did have a scan a few weeks ago to check how it was getting on, but as the scan shows, it needs to be sorted sooner rather than later.

Hopefully I will be able to have the surgery quite quickly, going to be a bit pushy and ask for a short notice date if possible. I do not want it left too long now, I don't want it to turn into an emergency admission, hubby would not be able to cope well with that. I am going to tell them that I am a carer and it would make life easier if it could be done before Christmas if possible, hopefully within the next 4 weeks, or just after, if before Christmas is pushing it.

I really should have had it done a few years back, but lack of trust in a surgeon who did not know what stretch marks were, put me off. Well would you have trusted him, I very much doubt it LOL.

So fingers crossed it goes well and it will be sorted very soon. Oh and no offers for arranging quicker appointment ISH, if you don't mind. :rofl:

Amethist

 

[Deleted member 5760]

Dear surgeon,

You ask 'what are stretch marks?'

*points to children*

'nuff said :)

Good luck amethist..

 

[amethist]

Well it was fun and interesting today. NOT

I still have no clue what is going to happen. I told what has been going on, for how long, and why I did not have it sorted years ago. Also that I did not want to leave it any longer to become an emergency admission, due to hubby's PTSD.

No problem I thought, scan had been done and it showed a problem, no Gall Stones, but a problem anyway. As I have had a few more flare ups these last few weeks, I really did think that it would be just matter of a date for surgery to be arranged in the not too distant future. A few different professionals had already said it would be better to have the opp and it removed now.

So there I am expecting to be told yes it does need to come out now, so we will put you on the list, with maybe an earlier date to save too much extra stress on hubby.

WRONG WRONG WRONG

No they are going to decide on Thursday when they have a meeting to discuss it all, along with the other "mess you around" cases. Decide whether it need to come out now, or further tests done. In other words they know it should come out soon, but we will do this, that and the other then think about it.

So what am I supposed to do now, except another run around by the NHS, as if I don't get enough with my husbands PTSD issues, now they have to start on me. Well if they are going to start that, I will forget it and just do the best I can with diet and alternative therapies.

When will some one give us a break.

 

[Iam]

I'm so sorry Amethist. You guys do deserve a break. Waiting for an answer is so damned stressful. That is the last thing you need in your life, more stress. Your idea of changing your diet and looking for alternatives is a good one. I am sure from what you are saying that they will eventually take your gallbladder out, but until that time take care of you the best you know how. You deserve it. I know it doesn't help much but (((HUGS))) anyway.

 

[deer_in_headlights]

Hi Amethist

I saw your new post listed, I hope you don't mind if I come over to your cyber-thread-neighborhood (I won't walk in your door!) and wish you well...
You are so terrific, it's the pits that you've got this! Good call on nixing the surgeon who didn't know what stretch-marks are (aackk! Run for the hills!).
Did they say anything about porcelain gallbladder?

Wishing you good news and the best medical care possible!