General The Nightmares And Flashbacks Are Back

[BlueOrange]

My post this morning in the Nightmares subforum may help. I do find that when things are especially good, my brain likes to say "Right then! Time to take out the garbage!" And it hits me with nightmares and associated crap.

 

[amethist]

Hubby is in a bad way again, not sure if it is PTSD or possibly just the bad stomach he has. Not sure if that is PTSD related, or from what he had for lunch while out today.

I had gone out and he decided to have a fish sandwich from the fish shop, he said he started feeling ill about half an hour after he got home.

So now he is in bed with stomach ache and his head in bits.

Will this episode ever calm down.

 

[BlueOrange]

The episodes always calm down in the end, although it's very hard to believe that when it takes longer than the established pattern.

*hugs*

 

[amethist]

And so it continues, so bad he was off balance and fell down the stair today while I was out.

Then he wonders why I wont leave him on his own when he is really bad.

 

[BlueOrange]

It's hard. In my opinion, the guilt and shame about the bad days makes them much worse. My current wife handles me really well, she's very good at making it clear that she's unhappy with the symptoms, not with me. And she uses humour to defuse my ego bruises when I don't want to admit weakness. But it has taken me effort and practice to be able to hear her.

Does he read these forums? Can you use discussing other people's stuff as a vehicle for understanding your own? It helped us.

 

[amethist]

Hi BlueOrange

No he does not read the forums he is not computor inlcined but give him an engine to strip down and rebuild and he will beat anyone at it.

To be honest I am so used to it all now I just tend to write down here what is going on, somedays good somedays bad.

5 years down the road we do have a good raport about what is going on, and he trust me to get it right when I need to.

 

[BlueOrange]

Very glad to hear that :)

 

[ISupportHer]

Has this improved at all over the past week? I hope so, even in some small way.

It is hard for me to fathom that he has to wait 12 weeks. Just ridiculous!

 

[amethist]

Nightmares are still happening ISH, but with what has been going on the last few days there is no wonder really.

Still we can cope until he gets the therapy, luckily we can sleep in most mornings.