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They Fired My Boss..

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Congrats on getting through the first day well!

A suggestion for memory issues and job tasks: get your job details in writing for your own use. Spend some time on it so it's usable for you. Draw pictures, whatever helps you get the systems down. Re-read as necessary!

When you're spacing out, you can usually still read, and I find that a physical set of words gets things into my brain much better than someone talking at me. It can also be somewhat grounding to read the things and know that the written material will be there. If people are talking at me, half my life I think I have been scanning their body language at some other ptsd brain level, so I often haven't taken in all their words. I used to have to take notes in every class and re-read everything later as absolutely nothing complex would sink in while around random people.
 
You know @Suzetig.. I was thinking the same thing. I've felt strangely.. buoyed by this event. My job, though incredibly easy, was really boring and not challenging in the slightest. I think I may have been sinking into even worse performance just because so little was expected of me. I hate to say it, but I'm kinda thinking that my former boss was kinda... enabling me to have bad performance and therefore make myself feel even worse about working. Because I was truly miserable at my job. It often felt as though I was only here because somebody pitied me, and I had great fear that the next boss down the line would waste my ass on grounds of gross incompetence. And that may have happened, except now I have a sort of interim period in which to ramp up my performance and understanding of my work.

I'm keeping a good attitude about this, fear be damned...
 
Well done on keeping a good attitude. Its not easy but thinking through what you want the outcome to be will help you stay focused on what you need rather than what you're missing from your old boss. I hope you're able to shine now you have space to do so.
 
Okay so today was good for the most part. Got in early, went about my new routine, which meant rearranging smoke breaks and all, no biggie. A friend told me that he had heard yet again that they weren't closing my section, which is great news. But also heard that they were considering doing so at one point in the spring, and apparently it came down to either cutting the boss or all of us. So I'm glad they made the choice they did.

Everything went swimmingly, except yet again the new boss asks me questions which I just don't know the answers too, because everything was so disorganized before. I'm actually starting to see just how disorganized it really was. Couldn't see it from the inside, but now... Let's see, also got a jump-start on some of my new duties before anybody even asked me to do them, so that made a few folks happy.

The only thing which worried me (because ofcourse there's going to be something that worries me) is that at one point the new boss asked me how I was handling the transition, because he had heard that me and the old boss 'were close'... Makes me wonder exactly what he's been told about me, and what this all means. Paranoia, I know.. I'm just going to stay cool and keep on keeping on..
 
From the outside looking in, it sounds like good things are happening there. Being aware now of how disorganized things were before means that now it can be fixed. That's really unfortunate that your boss had to go, but it seems like they made a sound decision to lose one person instead of the whole department.

Also, I think its a great thing that your new boss even cares enough to ask you how you're feeling about the transition and sensitive to it that you had a good rapport with your old boss. I know it must be all nerve-wrecking going through all of this, but like I said, from the outside looking in, it seems like you are in a good situation here.
 
When your boss asks you questions like that (how are you handling it) you could make a brief true statement then say something about the transition that you find positive or motivating ("it's a big change but it's great to see the teamwork," "it was sudden but I like the better organization now"). Say enough that he's not left wondering what you are thinking, whether you are stewing about anything.

You could even let him know that it's frustrating not to know answers to his work questions and you're working on that.

He's probably got a lot on his plate right now, lots of people and work to organize and his own boss to answer to. You are one piece of the puzzle. Keep it simple and follow his lead .

Really sounds like you are doing everything right and getting along well with everyone. It goes a long ways to have your coworkers happy with you.
 
Try not to worry too much about what he might have been told about you, it sounds like he's going to make his own mind up about you and that's a good thing. I agree with @seedling, recognise you're going through a transition but that you feel you're getting a better sense of what he needs from you, are feeling more confident, whatever.

Well done in seeing the opportunity for you to flourish in this - it would be so easy to get scared and decide it wasn't going to work. You're doing great.
 
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