Things We Say To Ourselves

[Zef]

A lot of what I work on with t is negative and unreasonable self-talk.

I'm wondering if there is interest in a thread where we share some of the unreasonable things we tell ourselves, to help others who may be telling themselves the same kind of things, support each other and, hopefully, be able to poke a little fun at ourselves. :)

One of the things I tell myself is that I am a complete failure because I should have been able to do something great with my life.

Stuff like solving world hunger or curing cancer or figuring out a theory that explains time. . .apparently, my supporters don't think I am a complete failure for not doing any of these things. I still think they are wrong, of course. . . :)

 

[discarded]

My t also works on this with me. I tell myself lots of things from being a crap daughter, mother, wife, friend to just not really being worthwhile at all. I don't have a lot of self confidence and not being able to help my PTSD husband was the crusher for me. I do have positive days though.

 

[Britt.f7]

I tell myself that I am not a good enough writer and that no one would be interested in my prose, poetry, or thoughts.

This despite the fact, since I was a child, I always had people who were encouraging to me(with the usual exception of my parents) and thought I was by nature a writer.

 

[Loveneverfails]

I tell myself that my feelings are irrational or crazy and my T constantly has to stop me and explain to me why what I'm feeling is perfectly rational. Apparently I took on the role my abusers left vacant when I escaped, of devaluing my emotions.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I changed the day I realized that negative self talk was abusing myself like my parents did. So I decided to change the way I talk to myself. I am still vulnerable. When I have a stumbling block a set back, the negative words kick in. So I have to work very hard on not doing that to me. I am having some success. I am not there yet, but I am doing alot better than I was.

I have had enough of abuse, and self abuse. I do not need to kick me when I am down. It is insidious the things I catch myself saying to myself when I am down. Interesting thread. I hope there are more replies.

Thanks for bringing the topic up.

 

[Jenfa]

One thing I say to myself, sometimes out loud is exactly what my father used to say when I was tip-toeing on insanity over stress. He'd say, "Whoaaa, easy girl." like I was a spooked horse. I've said it through tears, anger, frustration. I got a feeling he is smiling from wherever he is when I can put myself back into one piece with just that phrase.

 

[DharmaGirl]

I need to lose weight. Whenever something stressful happens, that's what I tell myself. Doesn't matter how much I weigh. I am replacing that thought with weight has nothing to do with this thought.