Relationship To Speak Or Not To Speak

[lovinbiker]

HI all I have a Dilemma that I need some help with, some of you will know me and know my story so far.

I have Not had any contact with my D since May to which she admitted to feelings but said that we need to draw a line on things. We had been split as BF/GF since the november but had remained friends. Well my dilemma is that its her birthday in less than a month. Should I send a message to just say happy birthday? Should I do nothing and allow her to move on ( If she has)

I dont want her thinking that Ive forgetten her that I didnt mean all the words I said to her. Am I fooling myself should I just move on with my life ( I will never stop loving her ) I think about her everyday

Anyone's opinions would be appreciated

LB

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[amethist]

I would send her a card at least LB. But dont go too slushy with it, keep it nice but maybe more on the lines you would send to a friend. With maybe just the words

"Have a great day, and go easy on the ......."

You could insert anything you think appropriate at the end, like chocolate, wine, cake anything.

So your not forgetting but staying within the boundaries of what would to most be OK.

Amethist.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

I agree with Amethist.

Its normal for people to send people they know birthday cards. If friends can do it, why not you? If that bothers her...frankly, that would be stupid.

 

[lovinbiker]

Hi Thanks both for your replies Its very much appreciated. I will send her a card but keep it simple and friendly only no emotional stuff. If she takes offence then at least I know where I stand for future.
LB

 

[lovinbiker]

Well I sent the card and she recieved it today, she sent me a txt to to say thanks :) Which was lovely to have. We ended up exchanging a few txts to catch up on how we both was what we been doing etc. She admitted to missing my bike LOL thats close to missing me hahaha.

Well what do I do now though is the question, im sure having a card from me and talking to me brings all sorts of feelings into her head both good and bad. She ended the txts saying she was off to bed and that we would chat again. I feel like I should now give her space again to deal with whatever she might be feeling from hearing from me again. Does that sound like a good idea. I tried to keep the card and txt friendly with no heavy emotional type stuff, But im sure it came across that I still have strong feelings for her. I dont think I could hide that fact.

LB

 

[NIKI]

I would give her space. If she wants to contact you she will. I would leave the ball in her court.

 

[amethist]

I have to agree with NIKI LB.

From my own past experience after having ended a past relationship, he kept contacting me and it wound me up to the point I had to warn him off big style. I would hate this happening to you.

So just let her be for now, if you hear nothing from her between now and Christmas, send her a card, as you did for her birthday. But I would then take it that she is only a friend, nothing more, so keep the heavy emotional stuff out of it completely.

 

[Srain]

I think you did well to send the card and have a few text messages with her. Your sense about this seem right on and giving her some space seems like the right thing to do. Amethist makes a good point.

peace,
Rain

 

[lovinbiker]

Thank you all for your replies I kinda of knew that giving her some space would be best idea, Its nice to actually have got that right maybe im learning after all :rolleyes:. I will leave her alone and see what happens, I havent got my hopes up for anything more than friends (even as txt/card friends only) I would just like to keep the line of communication open between us. So that if I can ever help her out she knows where I am.
LB

 

[Tinyflame]

I think understanding means a lot, LB

Hello, btw :)
((((LB)))