I wanted to reply to this thread because I've been waiting for months for this topic to come up...anywhere and its only now that he's crossed the sexual abuse line that people are starting to see that maybe he really is a toxic narc.
Anyway, after decades of healing and healing others, I feel pretty much healed and strong so that he does not trigger me.... What DOES trigger me is everyone else letting it happen, being silent, being scared of getting attacked for saying anything and also his supporters are very triggering and scary... like bullies are getting permission to be bullies...
I guess this reminds me of my toxic family, some of them good people, who ignored my mother's abuse, who blamed me for complaining or wanting to look into it (get into recovery), and scapegoated me along with her when I went 'no contact' with her, they all gave me grief and shame, rejection and abandonment.
Worse, they all ignored me and the affect it had on me, like nothing happened.
That's what is triggering to me. Not seeing the "king has no clothes", not seeing the "elephant in the room" and not seeing the invisible victims and if they do, they tear them apart so that coming forward is the most scariest thing in the world. To save self, one must remain in hiding.
Which is why I think we should have a National TELL Day where anyone who wants to TELL can do so safely, with support and resources. I think this should be on April 15, Tax day, because that's they day we all tell on ourselves and come clean and pay our dues.... plus there would be great opportunities for advertisement of TELL day and all teachers, cops, nurses, community centers, etc. were ready to hear what victims need to TELL. Regardless of age, when it happened, what happened, etc. It would also give "permission" for children to TELL on that day because it would be a socially acceptable thing to do, just like Halloween is a socially acceptable day to dress up as anything you want.
If you are being triggered, I validate you. It's real. Your feelings are real and are trying to tell you something. TELL. Tell yourself, tell your journal, tell a support group, tell your best friend, tell some place online anonymously. Free yourself from silent isolation and TELL.