scout86
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The way I understand this, a "trigger" triggers the whole fight/flight/freeze system. What ever follows, for better or worse, is your brain's attempt to deal with the perceived threat. I'm sure sometimes this can be very specific, like the snake analogy. Sometimes, at least for me, it's more general. Sometimes, for instance, a horse owner will do something incredibly stupid while I'm shoeing their horse. My instant reaction is to want to go after the person because "they're trying to get me killed!" They are NOT actually TRYING to get me killed, they are just incredibly stupid, which could get someone hurt. My reaction is over the top, or nothing at all because I realize killing them before they kill me isn't the way to go. The reason I react that way is the the fight/flight/freeze circuits in my brain are wired a little differently. The same reason I tend to react to people sneaking up behind me and touching my arm to get my attention by wanting to hit them. (Something I also try hard not to do!)
What @Sighs said in other words.
My T isn't an advocate of avoiding those situations. (Most of them are out of my control anyway.) He says I need to "think of better ways to react to them." He also suggests that I think about it in advance, run through scenarios in my head, and PRACTICE those better responses in advance, in my head. A lot. The idea being to have more and better options available when stuff happens. Not easy, but possible. It would be easier to try to avoid that kind of stuff, but not very productive, if the goal is to function in the same world as "most people".
What @Sighs said in other words.
My T isn't an advocate of avoiding those situations. (Most of them are out of my control anyway.) He says I need to "think of better ways to react to them." He also suggests that I think about it in advance, run through scenarios in my head, and PRACTICE those better responses in advance, in my head. A lot. The idea being to have more and better options available when stuff happens. Not easy, but possible. It would be easier to try to avoid that kind of stuff, but not very productive, if the goal is to function in the same world as "most people".