Some of the best schools teach you to hurt people.
Some of the worst schools teach you how to hurt people.
The best schools, IMO, make you more you, not less.
Think of the movie KungFu Panda... Each animal has to learn a different way to fight, according to their strengths. If there was only 1 way, all the rest would be less-them, a snake trying to be a bear, a bear trying to be a bird. Instead of being the best versions of themselves. And teachers matter. Because it doesn’t matter how good the content, with a terrible teacher. And a great teacher? Changes everything. Hard/trustworthy -vs- Hard/vicious? Both are hard, but both very different.
True/Not true right/wrong depends on many things. So many pieces. The school, the teachers, the other students, your own self. And it can change, as you do. What you need, what you want, how you think, and how you feel, where you’re at, where you’re coming from, where you’re going. That’s okay. It can be best at the time, and worst now. Or worst then, and looking back damn good. It’s okay for it to mean different things to you, in different ways, at different times.
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As far as other people being dicks? Yeah. That’s always them.