Walked Out Of Work Today!

[Stanley Shi-Yume]

Yeah, I know myself well enough by now that I can protect myself when necessary. When my "leaders" are behaving like flat out bigots, nitpicking and parading their write ups around rather than examining the flaws in the overall procedures leading to the problem situations they are so worried about, I just smile and keep on doing my job. If they want to put their money where their mouth is and get rid of me, they're free to do so. I think they really don't want to, because they know what they are doing is wrong and I have ground to stand on if they cross that line. They know I'm not the actual problem, I'm just smart enough to get the job done even when there is no good process established dictating the solutions I use. They want to single me out because I'm different and have different flaws than the norm. Go right ahead. I've got a lifetime education in bully resilience. You can't come to my level. You're not intelligent enough. I'm sure as hell not going to sink to yours or run away.

 

[ihateusernames]

I hope things went in your favor @Notsowild.

And-

Do bullies ever get theirs in the end?

Sometimes, boy do they. And honestly, you want to see them fall on their face and be humiliated or something, but you really don't want to see karma or whatever you want to call it seriously kick their ass. A really nasty lady I used to work with got far, far more than hers in the end. You don't want the gory details, but I doubt you'd wish it on your worst enemy.

I think oftentimes there's something going really wrong in their own lives and they don't feel like they have any control except over you. The best thing is to look out for yourself and if you're the type, find it in you to pray for them.

 

[Ladyghosthunter]

The State of Nebraska is so full of bullies it's not even funny. Trust me, I hope the new Governor knows that this is happening and not turning a blind eye to the bullshit that goes on there.

 

[Leah Morgan]

I hope you find a place to work where you feel safe and don't have to put up with this bulling any more. Big hugs

 

[SnowJo]

My manager is trying every trick in the book to get me to quit or get fired. Today she said I had hara...

You've done the right thing... go get a better job!
I foolishly didn't do this 3 years ago and then tried to make myself fit in with my boss's bullying tactics and "work through it", I went back to therapy and am still there only I ended up getting PTSD severly again due to the bullying and ended up having to leave a very senior role in a top global company. , I feel so annjoyed that I didn't just tell them to stuff off and leave and get another, better job like I would have done in years gone by! I have held jobs for 5+ years in IT, so perfectly capable, I let the bastard win. I need to take my power back - walk away from counselling and go get my life back! Oh if only it were so simple, It could have been if I'd done what you did.

 

[circe47]

My manager is trying every trick in the book to get me to quit or get fired. Today she said I had hara...

Do.Not.Quit! Let her fire you. If you don't feel that you can continue working, talk candidly with your therapist about the situation and see if you can go on medical leave. This also gives you time to figure out a plan and understand your long term options. Also, document, document, document. I had a similar situation happen with my last employer. I ended up getting shit canned due to my company reimbursing co-pays and handling all HR paperwork, thus actually seeing what kind of treatment I am receiving. I'm sure there is a violation of medical privacy in regards to that, but it's all spilt milk in my case. I personally believe that because my office manager saw that I was seeing a therapist, they were thinking I'd go all postal or something and decided to nip that in the bud.

I ended up having my therapist give me a very short, three day sick leave. Upon the eve of my return, my company informed me they were letting me go. This allowed me to get my unemployment benefits and try to find work elsewhere. Well, I worked temping for another eight months before the stress kicked in overdrive and I had to go on extended medical leave that transitioned into permanent disability. I can never go back. I just don't have the desire, patience or ability to tolerate the every day stress of a working in an environment full of narcissistic a-holes. Until humans in general get their heads out of their collective asses, I'm pretty sure it's in my own best health interests that I don't try to engage in any social arena.