Relationship What Do Sufferers Do When They Shut Us Out?

[boodle]

This is the hardest part for me he says he can't be with me because his head is so messed up but then he's all over Facebook having a great time with friends.

Yes, it hurts like hell.

 

[TheMinsterman]

It can be exceptionally difficult and very hard to understand, I know I've struggled to understand why I am suddenly not wanted and the bad guy when she doesn't treat others the same way, in fact she defends them despite their behaviour being MUCH worse than anything I've done, it's all about perception though.

@Sunshineturtle is spot on, great advice there, ask them and see what they say, you may get something useful, you may not.

 

[Sam0012]

I've had an on and off thing with a sufferer who keeps getting triggered and shutting me out for mo...

Hello I am not sure how to post on this website but I am a gf with bipolar depression. I love my bf to death even if he has PTSD I always try my best to be there for him.

Lately it's been really bad he isolates me for three days then that fourth day he warms up to me and then he goes back to isolating me. I feel horrible because certain things he does if I don't go along with it it triggers so much in him and he cancels plans and stops everything and wants to sleep all day and say horrible things to me that don't make sense to me.

I'm in alot of emotional pain and i don't really care to be honest. I want to be there for him but idk how because I can get very emotional and suicidal thoughts start to happen on my end. The fact that his friends to me seem more important push me to try to meet them so I can be closer to him but Everytime we try to meet he cancels and then makes it seem like everything is my fault or I judge his friends.

I don't know who to speak to because that is another thing that triggers him. If I go talk to anyone just to get away for a bit and give him space he also gets super upset and I feel so stuck. I'd like to learn how to quickly be careless because when I force my self to not care those are actually the best days we have together but it hurt me to be that way

I know I'm a very kind hearted person and I just want my relationship to be ok. He even cheated on me and I forgave him because I felt like maybe from my bipolar depression I say things out of no where that I don't mean when I'm hurt and don't notice until the next day. Sometimes I forget half of things that have happened of have been said.

Can someone please give me advice I'm on a thin line here :(