What Does Your Inner Child Need Right Now?

[Philippa]

Mine wants to play and have fun painting.

Her needs include feeling safe, warm and comforted and spoken to gently and with love, so working on my inner dialogue is important,as I have always had a strong berating streak in me, unfortunately.

 

[Heather]

I can't even fathom this concept, whatsoever, it's just totally beyond me. I feel uncomfortable with it, really. I know that I have parts of me that are 'childlike', but that's as far as I go.

I'm with you on this one Junebug. I know I don't feel my age (38). I certainly don't act it or look it. Everyone always thinks I'm in my 20's. I still feel like i'm 12 y/o....15 on a good day. Maybe I don't "go there" because it's just way to painful to acknowledge.

 

[Tinyflame]

Yes. Heather, maybe frightening -(?)

 

[Grace11]

Mine certainly doesn't need to be told she's useless, she's pathetic, she's not good enough, she might as well not try anything because everything she does is wrong :)

I hear you. I was told to kill myself this weekend by a "friend" and was told I wrecked my marriage tonight and ruined my life in a letter left by my ex.

My inner child wants a hug. And someone to tell me I'm not an awful person for leaving my cat with him as I moved around and fell apart. I'm sorry I left, kitty. I want us both to have a big hug.

 

[Heather]

frightening -(?)

I would have to agree Junebug. Just can't go there yet. You know?

 

[Brontie]

Some sleep. 2am here. need to get some sleep.

 

[Philippa]

I hear you. I was told to kill myself this weekend by a "friend" and was told I wrecked my marriage tonight and ruined my life in a letter left by my ex.

My inner child wants a hug. And someone to tell me I'm not an awful person for leaving my cat with him as I moved around and fell apart. I'm sorry I left, kitty. I want us both to have a big hug.

Sorry to hear. A "friend" told you that?:eek: Time to get a new friend I think.

I was remembering my father telling me how I ruined my life when I was a teen, after getting pregnant and having an abortion. It did cause me a lot of pain and suffering and years of grieving and loss, but he neglects to mention how HE contributed to the damaging of me and my life...funny that. I think it's a smoke screen people use so they don't have to look at or focus on how their behavior has affected someone.

He also blamed me for damaging our relationship...my crime...asking him openly and honestly if he rifled through my diary...again! I told him that lying and violating your own daughters privacy is what causes the relationship to be damaged...and haven't heard back from him since then...thank god!

 

[Grace11]

I think it's a smoke screen people use so they don't have to look at or focus on how their behavior has affected someone.

It is a smoke screen and thankfully we can see it that way. It's hard to realize it at the time, though. I have to trust my "older, wiser me" that it's all going to be okay (it's one of my safe places :) I'm sorry your dad violated your privacy and your trust, you did not deserve that treatment.

 

[Philippa]

Well, according to his rationalization, if he hadn't, I would still believe that he 'interfered' with my little brother...as I just KNEW was the case, since I was about 15, don't ask me how? I'm still not convinced he didn't...but he has convinced himself that this made it ok to do this to me. What can you do?:O_o:

It's all "water under the bridge" as far as he is concerned...not so for me!

 

[Grace11]

((hugs)) it obviously matters.

 

[Ron]

My inner child needs to know that he will never be scared to death again. He needs me to look out for him and keep him safe.

 

[Philippa]

((hugs)) it obviously matters.

((Hugs)) to you. Maybe you can give yourself a hug for your inner child...or a teddy perhaps?