What helps you when you feel suicidal?

[Tinyflame]

Sorry @EveHarrington I meant to reply earlier and couldn't find this.

I think there is underground wisdom in this said:

I can remind myself over and over that my cats would be so lost without me. That sounds really arrogant, I know, but what I mean is that we have a really tight bond - I get them and they get me - and it would be hard for them to adjust without me, I think.

I think it shows a few things that are shared by many of us, which might help:

-it's important to have a purpose
-that purpose could be just that day
-it's hard to 'make' a purpose, so having something necessary to do even one day at a time can make for many days in a row

and

I've gotten to a point, though, where I think they would be better off with someone else

-most of us seem to share that doubt/ have that bottom line, draw that conclusion.

So, to even have short term things to anticipate makes for future thinking/ future holding on.

Also, being heard, as you do. And perhaps also, if you're able to say how the other person feels (they will tell you if you are wrong). Then they can realize what feeling it is (in words), and then maybe begin to problem solve to change it. Because the problem has parameters and causation is more easily identified, rather than just 'feeling'. (Not speaking of the stuff of therapy, just friends.)

Hope you're both feeling better soon xox.

 

[FauxLiz]

As someone who struggles as your friend does with SI being as I call it my constant companion probably the best thing is a distraction. I for many years have asked what I was going to do when my kids were out of the house and well I am there. My current fix is I set an appointment a few days to a week away. The appointment is to do something for myself I would otherwise ski, manicure, haircut, browsing the new books at the library or bookstore if I am feeling like I can afford to buy a new book. These are small things to look forward to, I am momentarily distracted when I think about them coming up soon and distracted a bit longer when to appointment arrives. It is always flexible with enough I can move it around if necessary based on my life but I try my darndest not to cancel entirely
Was supposed to say something I would otherwise SKIP.

 

[Tinyflame]

Tbh I'm not sure if all SI is created equally; some being potentially biological (eg MDD or physiological), some being reactive to events (beliefs and hopelessness from those beliefs). Not that one or the other is more malleable, just that the cause (and solution) is different. Though I think the body ends up always interacting (eg pain not managed; insomnia; kidney problems; heart problems; med side effects, etc). JMHO though. (Like I can say, I was never a depressed kid, but I was always an anxious kid, and a sensitive, smart kid- so often a worried kid, even if no one knew how much I was).

ETA , yikes, sorry, I know what I forgot to add! I meant, make the positive grow, vs battling the negative- not what needs to be destroyed, but grow positives. Like, it's hard to feel SI or shame, when you laugh, even if it's just for a moment. Or to hate, or not forgive (including yourself), etc., if you hug, or despair as much when you are supported, etc.

If that makes sense. :confused:

 

[frogthroat]

Knowing that when I die or if I choose to I go back to being on the state I was before I was born really helps.
Recently, I've been thinking about how I take all my anger out on myself and I'm realizing that I should be taking it out on other people. Once you realize that every system is corrupt and you've been indoctrinated into believing since birth that people are generally "good" and that people have "morals" and "values" you can start to see reality as it is. I'm realizing I've been brainwashed into docile victimhood letting my emotions and memories control me when they don't matter in the slightest.
Do whatever you want. Time is short. There's no afterlife. Take whatever you want. People are parasites and they don't matter. You don't matter so you might as well get what you want since you're here anyway. Suicide is an option but there are other options that are much more satisfying.

 

[DharmaGirl]

When I feel like there is no other answer other than suicide, I tell myself that it is a thought, not a fact, and will change. I do whatever it takes to stay safe, and ride it out. It took a long time to get to that point.

 

[Abstract]

I too try to accept it as a symptom and thoughts and delay. I also try to check feelings and thoughts relating to feeling trapped. The no way out thoughts. Not that I have to believe there can be change. Rather that I try to stop the opposite thoughts. A bit like a court case and how they prepare for beyond a reasonable doubt. And I wouldnt want anyone to deal with the consequences. People who find me. Friends acquaintances etc. I don't want to spread the horribleness.

 

[bellbird]

With my most recent intense suicidal urge (I didn't act), a friend helped to talk me down from it.

She asked me to put it off for 15 mins, and then we could "talk" about it again then.
She also asked me to have something to eat and drink, as my mood is always worse when I haven't been eating properly (wow, I actually just admitted that- positive step).

15 minutes later and the urge was still pretty strong. So we waited another 15 mins.

Rinse, repeat.

I think after 45 min to an hour, aided with the nutrients and sugar from what I'd eaten, the urge had passed.
Like all methods, it won't suit everyone, but it did help me in that instance.
I suppose one could do the same thing using a timer on a cellphone. So that the method isn't reliant on others.

The sure-fire only thing that keeps me from acting on those impulses is that the animals that know me and I take care of would miss me

And yeah; the animal thing too.
My budgie noticeably acts very differently around me than anyone else. Friends who have looked after him for me have commented how chirpy and playful he gets whenever I've come to pick him up.
It's my responsibility as his owner to pay attention to his wellbeing, too now.

 

[Glo809]

Veterans hotline when the thought is more than fleeting.
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[Tinyflame]

. I also try to check feelings and thoughts relating to feeling trapped. The no way out thoughts. Not that I have to believe there can be change. Rather that I try to stop the opposite thoughts. A bit like a court case and how they prepare for beyond a reasonable doubt

Yes. ^^

A long walk down the highway on the shoulder.

 

[Angelwings]

I start saying the mantra, I love my son, I love my son, I love my son.....and sometimes I take it one breath at a time. Having a child really cements me to this awful world.