What Makes You Angry Today?

[Wagon]

Simple solution. Lock self in bathroom with a case of beer, snacks, a radio and something to read. Run to bed when sufficiently drunk.

OK. Not the greatest solution. I have tried it on certain occasions......mostly during mother in law visits.

 

[Ned]

And I know as soon as I show any bit of aggression it'll get blamed on the alcohol.

Wagon is on the money. In all seriousness, you're right, it does get blamed on that. And that got me thinking.
Most times, I'm drinking:
a) Out of choice, not need.
b) Because I like it, and it mellows me enough that I'm not aggressive.
c) As the normal reaction most blokes have after putting up with crap.

But....
'In vino veritas'

Unfortunately it does make us a bit more honest and less buttoned-up.
Couple that with the ease with which our straight-forward no-shit directness can be interpreted by your average civvy as 'aggressive' and you can see where the translation error creeps in.

The irony is that our internal give-a-shit meter is usually on zero. (hence the honesty). And being told we're not on top of it is not relaxing, which should've been the whole point of the exercise.

Short of dressing up in a pink tutu and saying everything in a squeaky girly voice, I don't think there's a better answer than Wagon's mate. In fact, don't buy the tutu.

 

[Wagon]

You can sit in the bathroom with the tutu. Nobody will know.

 

[Ned]

Or deploy the pink hand-bag response. Explanation available if required. So well-used in the British forces it has got an NSN.

 

[tho9900]

ya mine was the computer room, it was my man cave of sorts... I would get wrapped up in whatever and if she came to the door I could answer without looking at her, usually dulling my response.. And ya... sometimes with a bit of alcohol I would try to explain X or let her know Y about me but it always boomeranged on me as a guilt trip, aggressiveness etc.. most times I would be stone cold sober and that would happen... IMHO when in a more tranquil moment tell her when you get to that point, or you hear aggressive out of her mouth you will go to a quiet place in the house, that you dont wanna shut her out but to contunue to discuss it then would do more harm than good...

 

[tho9900]

You can sit in the bathroom with the tutu. Nobody will know.

somehow I can't get this out of my head now... kinda unsettling.. lol

 

[T^3]

angry...in general
angry at myself
angry at my impulsivity

 

[JarHed]

angry at my impulsivity

If it's any consolation, impulsivity is caused by the changes that have happened to our brains due to both our military indoctrination and PTSD. Being aware of it can help in controlling it. At least to some degree.

Anger and the impulses associated with it, violence, are still a super big problem for me. One of the most difficult for me to work on and control ever after all these years. As hard as it is sometimes, I'd rather feel anger at times than feel nothing. It's just an emotion like any other.

 

[combatgoldfish]

After the effects of the holiday, nothin has changed. My house is such a hostile environment to me mentally. I've been looking at moving with the relationship on the rocks. She doesn't speak to me, when she does its negative or very limited. I'm not even talking complete sentence.

I've been assuming its me. Perhaps, I'm f*cking losing it worse than I thought. I go to school and don't have problems following lectures or random conversations at school. So, I can't really pin point what's going on.


I feel alone a majority of the time when I'm at home, so, why stay. I would hate to move the dog into an apartment, but her and I go to the dog park once a day. And I certainly mind going out with her to go potty. I think I need more structure and going about it on my own may create it or may very well destroy me. Who knows.

 

[tnkg1rl]

Terrible day, hunting season is over....The man missed a big buck so he comes home and I get a huge attitude.... don't get it I wanna go to camp for two weeks without kids, don't think it would be allowed if I came back being a dick. To top it off, the bus broke down this morning so they call me to tell me after the kids were out waiting in 20 degree weather to tell me they needed a ride AWESOME!! Got to spend the day at the VA, to hear that I need cognitive behavioral therapy, which isn't a bad thing really, but basically there hasn't been a pill created to help me yet (hahahahha, I got a good laugh out of that one). Just needed to vent, pissed cause I can't be fixed, and pissed in general.

 

[tnkg1rl]

My house is such a hostile environment to me mentally.!!

He doesn't speak to me either, getting pretty damn old, real real fast

 

[CAFTT0607]

We all have those days...regroup and take a deep breath...that's about all I got. Hang in there.