Relationship What Part Do You Hate The Most?

[Tabitha]

I'm just wondering as carer's, what part of your partner's PTSD symptoms do you dislike the most? What part do you wish you could just snap your fingers and they'd go away?

I guess I should answer my own question, but I'm not even sure how to.

I'd want to say the selfishness but I'm not even sure that's a symptom or a personality trait that she has.

 

[wife of]

Dissociative flashbacks,scary for both him and those around him,pysicaly dangerous at times...

 

[Sandra]

Flashbacks with me are the worst.
Marrying my dead beat husband.

 

[amethist]

Flashbacks have to be he worst for my husband too.

 

[Tabitha]

I'm sure N has flashbacks, but she never lets me know it. She hides it all very well. Sometimes I hate that too. I wish she would communicate more.

 

[atl22]

Speaking as a sufferer, telling my fiancee that I had flashbacks and that I dissociated was one of the most difficult things that I have ever had to do. I had to throw up after. The look on her face still haunts me.

 

[leweyoz]

Good thread Tabitha, but boy it's a toughy. I hate it all.

I guess that it's robbed my man of his life. Big strapping take charge kind of guy... and to see him now with no confidence is yeh... sad.

 

[Eleanor]

Two things. Dissociation - when I hear this horrible stranger speaking with my husband's voice. And watching him work SO HARD all the time to keep things under control...

 

[Anna]

My partner tells me it is me being aggressive and rude. Plus sleeping in seperate beds.

 

[Ricanoland]

I hate going to sleep the nightmares and feeling emotional drained. Sometimes I wish I could stay up forever. So I wouldnt grind my teeth so loud it wakes up my love, and hurts me the next day. What part do I hate the most... gosh... lol everything, I suppose I hate the fact I still ask the question Why?

Rica

 

[Marie E.]

I think what I do that I hate the most, having PTSD, I run away from who I am with, without mentally/emotionally being there.

 

[maddog]

A friend of mine tells me that the part she hates most is the feeling that there's nothing that she can do to help me. She is a very process-driven "what are we going to do to fix it *now" kind of person, and the endlessness, entrenchedness and seeming inevitibility of my symptoms drives her to utter distress sometimes.

She and other friends also say they hate the way I isolate, and can't/won't talk to them and struggle to communicate what's going on inside my head. Again, for people who've never been there, the inability to speak and communicate and share feelings and experiences can seem infuriatingly impossible to understand, or so I'm told.

Interesting to think about this topic from the perspective of what others hate the most, as opposed to whatI, as a sufferer, subjectively experience as the worst parts. Obviously there are many similar themes, but the impact of our behaviour and demeanour on others is something that's easy to miss when you're consumed by your own experience.

Maddog