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What To Never Say To A Ptsd Sufferer

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I'm not sure if this is the right forum to tell this, but I feel I must--even to just get some confirmation that what I'm feeling is correct.

Whatever you're you're feeling is always correct :)

Whether other people can see your feelings, however, is a different thing. In my experience, generally they can't - especially if the feelings arise from events that are beyond their experience. I can't blame people for that, but it does make me feel lonely or isolated when I'm dealing with things that are outside most people's experience.

Language is such a messy tool for explaining feelings and experiences, it's no wonder that it goes wrong a lot of the time. The only solution I've found is to keep trying...
 
Ever had a comment made by a family member/ friend/ coworker/ stranger...
This thread is 49 pages long! So I don't know if I'm repeating what someone else has said... but the comment that aggravates me the most is "Wow, I could never manage to keep going if that happened to me."
People say it in support, I think, like some kind of admiration, and they don't realize how stupid it is. I don't have a choice. And so what I want to say is this: "What do you mean? If you were me, you'd kill yourself?" (I have never actually said that.)
Yeah. Not actually supportive.
 
I'm not sure if this is the right forum to tell this, but I feel I must--even to just get some confirmatio...

Oh, Katz. I am heartbroken to hear this. No one should ever have to go through something like this. I am so very sorry. I hope that you manage to get to a place where you can calmly tell your husband that, no, this was NOT better. It was horrible and traumatic. Nothing like this could ever be okay. I am praying for that little girl and holding her up to God (if that's okay) for his healing comfort. :hug:s
 
Pull up a chair, sit down, strap in, strap on, or whatever the f*ck it is that you do, and listen up because: Here's some constructive advice for the (decent) guys out there with ptsd: stay the f*ck away from females. Beat off, or whatever you have to do, but save yourself the misery. The last double X chromo I was stupid enough to feel sorry for had me sold on this sob story about how much her ex abused her and her kids, I LOATHE abusers, so I wanted to make this turd's life a living hell. I set the wheels in motion, but she kept throwing a wrench into my plans. Come to find out, she was protecting and still seeing the bastard almost the entire time. The more I think about it, the madder I get.. One of my ex's wants to come stay with me for a while, because she is concerned about my "emotional state". (And, how in the HELL is it that these women have the intuition to know each and every time I am an emotional basketcase anyway?) Well, first of all..who wouldn't be pissed, and second, just because I really, really want to send a few people on a one-way trip through a f*cking limb shredder, it doesn't mean I can't take care of myself. Guys, let me tell you a little something about being with, what society would call, a "beautiful" but unstable woman: you will pay a very high price for it, either financially, emotionally, or both. How much is that tight ass and those perky tits worth to you? Because, in the end, you will be left only with an empty wallet and a broken heart. And, one last secret about females: they don't truly want each other to succeed. Women are naturally competitive, and even though they all group hug each other when one of them is having trouble with a guy, saying things like "Oh, you don't need him" or " Move on and find something better", they secretly want whichever woman who is having the crisis to fail. Meaning, job, relationship, new hair do...whatever. Because, they want to be the one that everyone admires: the woman with the perfect marriage or relationship, best job, best kids, best perfume, best shaved ass crack..the list is endless. It's a f*cking circus, guys. I, for one, am sick and damned tired of it. And, to any (good) guys out there who are actually married: YOU AREN'T EXEMPT FROM THIS. Watch out, because, sooner or later, it's coming. In time..your asses will get burnt also.
 
@Whispering_Truth - ever consider that you might be a willing participant in buying into these bad relationship scenarios?

Just a thought.

I mean, lots of women are bitches. Lots of men are assholes.

Your point, then, is...? People suck? It's true, lots of times people suck. But I think like all things, you have to find where you can control and change the things that are about you - not just staying stuck on these really generalized and insulting generalizations about a whole gender.

Those things you are saying all women are? I know plenty of men like that. It's a people thing, not a gender thing.
 
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