Who Do You Let Into Your Home?

[Freddy_hiding_less]

This is a question connected to who do you tell about how your inner life looks and who do you tell about what you need to do "to stay in this world".

I haven't cared so much about my home more then to keep it so much order that it works as a base for my activities, I have some mementos from life as decoration, all that doesn't stick out from normality too much.

Now I have been thinking of more decorate and organize it purposefully for the benefit of my private personal path at this moment, with things that symbolize what I strive for and can help to guide me and remind me how to handle bumps. Some of that might stick out from normality.

Any thoughts are welcome.

 

[Mommy to 2]

I would say please only yourself. This is your home, decorate as you wish. If it should, as you say, "stick out from normality" and that would be bothersome to you, simply put those things away before a visitor would come. If someone stopped by and paid particular attention to a decorative item, you could say "I found this so unusual..."

I've learned, sometimes to my disadvantage, not to let what others think be more important to me than what I think. Please yourself. If this will help you in your journey, than to hell what others may think. Be kind to yourself.

~Mommy to 2

 

[shiraz]

Hi Freddy,

I love to express myself in my environment. Once my sister came round and suggested that i might want to put some stuff away as I was getting really eccentric. That made me open my eyes and see that I had created this space that represented my journey ... and I loved it! and to hell with my sister!

I don't live alone anymore and I find it difficult to express myself like I used to, but I have a room I use as a study, that is all mine and this is where I get creative. I change the space a lot depending on my needs ... right now it is really empty and simple and has chakra candles, crystals and a few things to help me focus and ground. At other times, the walls are full of art and quotes and things I print out which inspire and remind me of important points in my journey.

I lock the door when I don't want any attention from outsiders.

I agree with Mommy2two, It is your space, you live in it - do with it as you wish! I love the idea of symbols so that as you move through your day, you are invited into mindfulness and contemplation. your home should reflect you - all of you. You are the one that has to live there, so you should make it about you! It should serve you and heal you.

I hope you do it and have fun with it too!

Shiraz

 

[kers]

It sounds like there are two questions going on for you; one is whether you are comfortable expressing yourself through your home, and another is whether you feel comfortable inviting other people to see that--to expose yourself, in a certain way. Is that right?

I have decorated my home very strongly. It was important to me, when I moved into my home, to make it mine. It looks nothing like the home where I was abused. It's painted and decorated to feel very warm and safe. It's my retreat.

Do I let other people in? Occasionally. I prefer people stay on the first floor--the second floor is where I sleep, where my books and journals are, and it's a place I like to keep private. Having people over does make me feel invaded, a little bit, but when I let the right people in, it makes me feel like I am sharing myself with them in a way that is good for me.

It can be very freeing to decide to claim a space.

 

[sigh]

:eek:I am trying to free up the space, but it is small and I, a reasonably creative person, share it with a diver with some photos of oceans on the wall. Eeek.

Shiraz, I am so jealous of you. There's this store that sells a lot of fabric from India and Thailand and Burma and it's so beautiful. In my old house, I put up silk scarves, and my books, and a fabric which had the eyes of Buddha on it.

Now, laundry is the only option:eek: