Poll Who Walks On Eggshells Around You?

[Meadowsweet]

At the moment I have a friend from the past who I am trying hard to build bridges with. The reason I walked away in the past is because we couldn't find a common communication. But now, she is speaking in a way that creates a lot of difficulties for me. And I am walking on egg shells trying to be honest with her and give her a chance at a better understanding, without her feeling put out that she doesn't understand. It is very difficult and straining.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

I don't know who walks on eggshells around me, or if they do. I'm the one always walking on eggshells around others.

Exactly.

I walk on eggshells around everyone. I'm terrified of upsetting people and giving them ANY reason to dislike me.

 

[The Albatross]

Nobody. Not anymore. Though I walk on egg shells a bit with my mother and mother in law... I wish I didn't have to.

 

[BloomInWinter]

My family intentionally walks on eggshells, trying not to trigger me. I know, because I asked "Do you feel like you need to walk on eggshells around me?"

Then, I asked them when and what for. I learned a lot about myself and how much they truly love me. Their responses have given my therapist and myself good targets for therapy.

I wouldn't have asked that question of anyone who wasn't completely trustworthy, though.

 

[twopenny]

Anger is one of my things... so everyone I've shouted at... and everyone who knows (which isn't many people).

Apart from hub. He's his normal messed up self, as I am with him.

 

[ericaboo]

People walk on eggshells around me, if they become close, because my feelings get easily hurt.

I have tried to mitigate this by removing myself from situations so others don't have to be disturbed by my emotions, yet this ironically seems like a rejection, withdrawal or abandonment...

I'm trying to grow a thicker skin, relax and have more of a sense of humor. This is hard though, to trust and see the best in a situation - defensiveness is a hard habit to break...

 

[BlackbirdSinging]

I said family and that I'm the one walking on eggshells. Some people in my family are very aware of how reactive I can be. And when it comes to bringing up certain topics they walk on eggshells.

I walk on eggshells the most though. Hypervigilance lets me see how other people behave in different situations. I can then tell who I'm ok to open up to and who I'm not ok to open up to.

 

[Britt.f7]

My husband does but that is because that is the type of man he is. He is afraid of disappointing me and not because of anything I have done. I told him I want him to speak his mind more. No one likes a yes man. At least, not me. I want truth from him.

There are plenty in my family that I walk on eggshells around. They are not going to change. I wish I didn't and they would probably deny that I have to, but I know better. I've dealt with the painful consequences of not doing so. Just easier to walk on the eggshells, even in bare feet, then to put myself out there for verbal abuse or mind games.

 

[KrispyKreme]

Many of my friends walk on eggshells around me, I find it very annoying. Even tho I suffer from PTSD, I still am normal...

 

[Deleted member 25333]

Myself the most. But sometimes I get so overloaded by the triggers and flashbacks and everything that comes along with it, that at times I break into anger and I rage at my mom. In those moments I guess you could say my mom has to endure a fair bit because she doesn't know what happened and therefore doesn't understand what I'm so pissed off about.

 

[Changing4Best]

I don't think anyone does, but only they know for sure. Maybe folks at church do, as I have a Service Dog and they don't know why, as I've only told my closest friend at church who also as PTSD. To my knowledge, no one else knows. But mystery is a great imagination trigger, so they may have several ideas of the reason(s) why I have a Service Dog. Probably their imagination has led them to believe that it is far worse than it is, as I have been in therapy for over a decade, and am a survivor by this point.

 

[Deleted member 6617]

I feel like I walk on egg shells around just about all my friends and co-workers right now. I just don't seem to be able to say or do anything without it being taken wrong, twisted, mis-interpreted, or taken out of context. It is not a very pleasant place to be. I don't trust myself to be perfectly clear in my communication, and I don't trust others to clearly understand what I am saying. I feel like I am on constant alert and it is exhausting. I don't feel able to just relax and be myself.