Why am i revisiting ... 12 months on?

[Living it again]

Hi ... don't really know what's happening if I'm honest I was in a DV relationship for 13yrs and left it with my little boy ... began to rebuild my life with an amazing new man who adores the ground I walk on anyway back to the reason I'm posting this time last year I knew I was leaving unfortunately had a holiday booked abroad with my parents, sibling, my little boy and my ex ... well it was horrific to say the least and everything I kept hidden bubbled to the surface and my life became exposed to my parents ... well I can say they supported me and I left ... but the confusing bit to me now is when I'm asleep I'm relieving what was the holiday from hell ... play by play ... from the moment I shut my eyes I'm there ... why ??? This was 12 months ago ... I have received counselling and due again in October ... can anyone explain this to me and how I can shift my thought process as I don't want to be what feels like stuck (sorry if I rambled and I hope it makes sense ... thanks in advance)

 

[EveHarrington]

Its not uncommon for trauma to bubble to the surface much later, even decades later.

My guess is that your therapy was insufficient. I suggest seeking out a trauma therapist who can help you process what happened.

 

[barefoot]

Yes, it sounds like your psyche is trying to process stuff, so I think it's a good thing that you have more counselling coming up next month. Just the odd dream about this kind of stuff may not be hugely significant and over-thinking why you have had it may not prove very helpful. But if it bothers you, it is worth being up and, if you keep having the same dream or dreams around similar themes/dynamics, I would take it as a sign that your psyche wants you to put some attention there.