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Thanks for The Perspective, It Helped
WOW! Thanks for the responses and resources here everyone, I guess I was having a bad day. Some quick thoughts:
1. amethist - I am have shared this site with my wife and now my mom, going to refer them both specifically to the carers section.
2. 2quilt - I will try to write my wife a letter next time. I think trying a more traditional medium will work better, it is more tangible then just words that are said and forgotten hastily.
3. This Ends Now - Thank you for the support and yes the day to day tasks still baffle and frustrate us both. I have opted for a "one thing a day" approach. When I get to the end of my day I ask myself...did I get at lease one thing done. If the answer is YES then I know that my day has been a success and it really helps me acknowledge that I AM GETTING THINGS DONE (no matter how small)
4. Grianne - Thank you! And it is OK to go at your own pace. My pace was 15 years :smile: !!! I will read the carers section more and make the effort to appreciate my wife more...she is an amazing woman that is why I married her after all. My wife is learning and I know she will get better. We only fail when we decide to quit, and neither of us are quitters! The tricky part is to make a dynamic where the trauma pulls you together and not apart. I can see that in your reply, thank you for sharing that. Gives me more hope.
5. Onebravegirl - Yeah I get that "looking glass" symptom pretty bad. Like EVERYONE else is on the outside and I am locked in. Like no one else can understand me because they were not there, they did not see what I saw. I know my wife is suffering when I am suffering, I acknowledge that and want to find a way to support her.
More soon...
WOW! Thanks for the responses and resources here everyone, I guess I was having a bad day. Some quick thoughts:
1. amethist - I am have shared this site with my wife and now my mom, going to refer them both specifically to the carers section.
2. 2quilt - I will try to write my wife a letter next time. I think trying a more traditional medium will work better, it is more tangible then just words that are said and forgotten hastily.
3. This Ends Now - Thank you for the support and yes the day to day tasks still baffle and frustrate us both. I have opted for a "one thing a day" approach. When I get to the end of my day I ask myself...did I get at lease one thing done. If the answer is YES then I know that my day has been a success and it really helps me acknowledge that I AM GETTING THINGS DONE (no matter how small)
4. Grianne - Thank you! And it is OK to go at your own pace. My pace was 15 years :smile: !!! I will read the carers section more and make the effort to appreciate my wife more...she is an amazing woman that is why I married her after all. My wife is learning and I know she will get better. We only fail when we decide to quit, and neither of us are quitters! The tricky part is to make a dynamic where the trauma pulls you together and not apart. I can see that in your reply, thank you for sharing that. Gives me more hope.
5. Onebravegirl - Yeah I get that "looking glass" symptom pretty bad. Like EVERYONE else is on the outside and I am locked in. Like no one else can understand me because they were not there, they did not see what I saw. I know my wife is suffering when I am suffering, I acknowledge that and want to find a way to support her.
More soon...
