Wife Moved Out. Starting The Divorce

[Bookoffee]

My wife moved out a few weeks ago. She still has stuff here. I called a lawyer today to start the divorce. I am sick to my stomach.

In an exchange of texts she told.me.she was no longer playing my games. I have no idea what she is talking about.

She said I was being passive aggressive because instead of saying I need something, I asked if she was planning to somewhere where I needed something.

I just want my apartment, all my animals and a car. She can have anything else. At this point I just want her away from me for good.

 

[Mytime]

Sorry to hear about the loss of your
marriage. I hope you take the time to
moran the loss. If I understand right, this is something you wanted. But it's still a loss. Sending support.

 

[Bookoffee]

Yes. I can't keep up with her forever demanding of me to change just about everything about myself. I sat in fear of her for the past year. It is so scary to talk to her because she will literally tell me how to speak, what I am to say to her, how I need to feel and who I had to stay away from.

Everytime I would do something I wanted, she would tell me how much of a bad of idea it would be by reminding of all the abuse I went through in my childhood.

Last night was the first night I had nightmares since she left. Election night ~ no nightmares, Text from her ~ nightmares

 

[shimmerz]

demanding of me to change just about everything about myself.

Yeah, no, this is not helpful for a sufferer. Or anyone for that matter.

I know you have hung on for a long time @Bookoffee. May you come to peace with this new shift.

 

[Bookoffee]

Thank you, @shimmerz

I was starting to feel empowered again and one text from her and I felt strip of it. I am hoping when we meet tomorrow it will be positive for the most of it.

I can feel her hate she has for me.

 

[Friday]

Congratulations & Condolences.

On the starting your new life & the passing of your old life.

Divorce is complicated hardship.

 

[shimmerz]

I can feel her hate she has for me.

Hate/Contempt is always a sure sign for me that it is time for me to exit. It has been my experience that I missed this cue. It has, in my history, been a dangerous one to miss.

 

[Bookoffee]

Yes it has been hard feeling her anger and hate. I couldn't get through a day without having multiple panic attacks. She would yell at me to just say what I want and need. I couldn't form any words and would stumble and studder trying to talk.

When I could finally speak for myself, I was always being cut down.

She broke every promise she has ever made to me.

This will actually be a nice holiday gift.

 

[Deleted member 541]

Stand strong knowing that you will be the victor in the end. You will have your freedom, your voice, and your life back. She only has hatred within herself.

 

[Mytime]

Hope things went well for you today :)

 

[Bookoffee]

It was completely stressful. I can't wait to be done. I can't stand being around her. She is mean, selfish, and arrogant.

I have a cousin that has been a lawyer in family law.since the late 90s. I emailed her at her work email explaining the situation.

I hope she will be able to.help me.

 

[EveHarrington]

:hug: