Yesterday, My Therapist Dumped Me.

[ReachingOutJ]

I would die if my therapist yelled at me or spoke like that. Mine knows I am scared stiff of loud voice...

Thank you, Sammy. It really did scare me, and I empathize. I'm with you on this, and I hope I find a more suitable therapist.

 

[Gadgie]

I know what it's like to be dumped by your therapist, I got dumped last year, and couldn't believe the reason why?

It turns out that I wasn't responding "quick enough," as I had too many issues going back over too many years!

She was told by her boss to cut down on her patient list, to save money, and I was one of those who got dropped? I've had no help ever since then,.....well I'm on the waiting list, again. I had waited two years to get in the list the first time, so I've no idea how long I will have to wait this time?

 

[hodge]

Oh, Gadgie, I'm so sorry. That's just not right.

 

[ReachingOutJ]

I know what it's like to be dumped by your therapist, I got dumped last year, and couldn't believe the re...

I am so sorry this happened to you. :hug: if you accept it. It sounds to me like you could use another therapist who would not say such things to you.

 

[ReachingOutJ]

I found a new (male) therapist today; going to give that a try. I have an appointment with him next week, in the evening, and I am eager to go and talk with him. We had a nice phone conversation today, and I told him what I have been through. (Nice, but I could not help but cry while we spoke.)

 

[notsurewheretoturn]

I've had no help ever since then,.....well I'm on the waiting list, again. I had waited two years to get in the list the first time, so I've no idea how long I will have to wait this time?

Oh boy do I know this feeling well! This is the problem with the NHS, they don't class mental health as being important so its budget is continually cut and people have to wait forever to get the help they need.

 

[ReachingOutJ]

Oh boy do I know this feeling well! This is the problem with the NHS, they don't class menta...

I'm sorry you're going through this.

 

[William Wasilewski]

I know what it's like to be dumped by your therapist, I got dumped last year, and couldn't believe the re...

Not every therapist is a good fit! I am very surprised at the interaction between you two! I wonder if your behavior or comments triggers a place in your therapist that he/she was or is not aware of! Let me encourage you to see that not all who proclaim to be a therapist are mentally healthy therapists! Take apart the word therapist! The Rapist! Power Over! Your therapist needs supervision or choose another profession! Just my two cents! I admire your strength sharing this with all of us on FB. You will find another therapist who will be a more appropriate friend you need as a therapist right now along your journey.
Peace to you

 

[Deleted member 28942]

That therapist needs more therapy than you do! I had a similar experience but I found a therapists that is understanding and empathetic. It's hard and takes some time but you will find a good therapist just don't give up

 

[Summer Ava]

I had similar experiences with 2 therapists. I can't even put it into words, because it's so painful and upsetting. Bad therapy hurts like hell and can cause such extensive harm. As if we aren't harmed enough. They just don't get it -- why it's so crucial to not further traumatize us by replicating abuse dynamics. Thank god there are good trauma therapists out there -- they are rare gems. I hope you find one. Safety in the therapeutic relationship is critical. I'm so sorry this happened to you. You deserve better.

 

[ReachingOutJ]

I had similar experiences with 2 therapists. I can't even put it into words, because it's so painful...

Thank you for your kindness. It means a lot to me. I'm sorry that you have also had similar experiences with two of them, as well. To add insult to injury; I think I may have mentioned this earlier in this thread, my mother's husband verbally abused me on the phone after I told him this happened to me. He told me I "deserve" to be yelled at, and that it's good for me, and mean people are at least not boring like nice people. It hurt a lot. Unfortunately, I have to take it; can't answer back or hang up on him, because he is paying for my medical insurance, and I live in one of his houses. I am in a tough place in life right now.

 

[seedling]

I was thinking today that she "dumped" you before you dumped her. Sounds like you were appropriate and assertive about what you needed from her and she couldn't take it.
Sorry about your living situation. Hope you can take advantage of having insurance to get a therapist that's helpful to you so you can move past stuff and get in a better place - no better revenge lol. I'll take boring nice people any day over drama and chaos.
Hang in there.