Yesterday, My Therapist Dumped Me.

[Kit kaplan]

I had been to see her for three weekly visits. We were just getting started. The problem happened d...

I had something a bit similar recently. My stepdaughter was going to adopt my grandson whose mother died. As we began to integrate him into her family he began to report to my sister and his therapist several incidences of abuse. He was quickly removed from the family but a lot of damage was done.
I had been seeing a new therapist for three weeks for ptsd. When i told her she stood up,shes tall, and got upset threatening me that she wouldnt see mee if i didnt call social services. I tried to explain that the agency wher my godson gets therapy is handling it but she couldnt hear it. She earlier told me threatening someone is abuse then threatened me. I left right away. Sometimes i find in recovery i get a load of what im trying to heal. Ive learned to move on fast when it seems someone has been triggered by me. They cant help me. Boy is it traumatic when this happens. It's unprofessional

 

[ReachingOutJ]

I was thinking today that she "dumped" you before you dumped her. Sounds like you were appropriate and a...

Thank you. I was calmly assertive though; I did not yell back at her or behave as she did. I'm just thankful I found a new therapist to go try to talk with next week.

 

[DarkSideOfTheSoul]

@ReachingOutJ ...Big Hugs to you. Know that there's so many caring folks here that DO have concern for your welfare. I wish you all the best with your new therapist, and I hope that this site can arm you with all the necessary questions to ask your new T. It will aid greatly to avoid another therapist failure.
Also, as for your mother's father..is it possible that as soon as he begins an abusive rant, that you hold the phone away from your ears so you don't have to endure further injury. Just say 'Uh huh' and pretend to agree at the right moments, then remove the phone from your ear again? Dunno if that will help diminish further injury in your precarious situation at the moment.
All the best to you, and know that there's a place for you to come to where people actually care...

 

[IdesOfMarch]

That is a really hard situation but seems like you handled it well. I work at an outpatient mental health center (but I'm not a clinician). It sounds like maybe your therapist was burning out and I am certainly sympathetic to that. But, that does not excuse his/her poor behavior. Please don't give up on getting the help that you need. I am extremely fortunate to have found an excellent clinician to work with me. She has been in my shoes so she "gets it". Sounds like you may have found a better match? I hope the initial meeting with your new clinician went well. May we all find peace. Hugs to you...

 

[Fembot]

That is ridiculous! Had a "therapist" on another social website literally stalk me into every thread I was in for days because I spoke on a topic and he did not like my position. Note: I was not his patient, nor was I directly addressing him. Got so bad that I turned him into the website. Come later to read his threads that he himself suffered with PTSD, so apparently something I said triggered him. Regardless, your former therapist should NOT be counseling people if he or she cannot be patient and keep his or her own emotions in check. That confrontation was not only unprofessional, but could have lead to some serious consequences for the patient, let alone the practitioner. Best to move on, but do consider reporting it.

 

[GWhizz]

I very briefly had an experience with a T like that. I brought my partner in and called her out on everything. She just sat there with a condescending smirk telling me I wasn't in the right service and she didn't have time for me. Almost, almost put me off bothering with that service again. I eventually got switched to a much more 'normal' T in the same service who finally listens to me and actually gives helpful support.

 

[JoBo]

I'm sorry this happened to you. I think you should report her, as she will do this to someone else, who may not cope as well as you have! Another client may be more vulnerable & do something really awful to themselves. Hugs to you.

 

[Marymickaela]

Does she work for a larger practice? If so she probably has a supervisor to answer to. I know it will cause you serious anxiety (it would me), but I would report her. She's damaging her patients. You've escaped spending another minute with this nut job, but she needs to be reported.

I finally (after 10 years) found a fantastic therapist in April. She's the most wonderful person and will spend extra time with me if she feels I need it. I can't imagine her ever talking to me like that.

Take care and just follow your gut. If it's too much, drop it, but if you're up for it report her. Good luck!

 

[Cool Cat]

I had been to see her for three weekly visits. We were just getting started. The problem happened d...

report her!

 

[PollyScotland]

Thank you. I was calmly assertive though; I did not yell back at her or behave as she did. I'm just...

hi, just wondering how your session went with the new T? :)