Therapist Terminated With Me

[Deleted member 33880]

After working with him for six years, with a contract that he is ending June 31st 2017 when he takes early retirement, I get a phone call today from his line manager telling me that he will no longer be able to work with me. she has fixed up an assessment 50 miles from my home for Oct 6th. I have not had therapy in three weeks. I am a wreck. This whole thing is a train wreck. I cannot believe this has happened to me. I cannot believe I am just left like this. this therapist of all the people on this planet knew my attachment problems, my abandonment issues, my issues around therapists just terminating with me, and now he has done it, knowing the critical crash it will send me into.
I cannot believe this is happening to me

 

[rascal]

I'm sorry to hear that. I'm sending hugs through my internet tubes, I hope they make it to you! :hug:

 

[BOAG]

Wow, Kaluki, I don't even know what to say. I would be devastated as well if that happened to me. It seems the very least he could have done was talk to you himself about it and try to help you through the transition. How are you supposed to see a therapist that is 50 miles away from you?!?

Can you talk to or email your therapist to let him know how this is affecting you? Would that help?

 

[Chiqui]

...So sorry :(
...I will find a new one Asap.

 

[Deleted member 33880]

No. I am not allowed to talk or contact him. It is a mess. I can only think he has had a breakdown. this is the only logical explanation.

 

[BOAG]

No. I am not allowed to talk or contact him. It is a mess. I can only think he has had a breakdown. this is the only logical explanation.

Well, that could be. Or a serious health issue?

Ugh. I'm really sorry you're having to go through this.

 

[Deleted member 33880]

I go from seeing him twice a week to NOTHING. No ending. No explanation. We were right in the middle of some really explosive stuff that had me crying when I last saw him and I left in tears shaking and he said 'dont' worry, I will see you in two days'. and his last text to me a week ago said, 'I am sorry this is taking so long,I will contact you when I am going back to work, see you soon. '

 

[sedna]

After working with him for six years, with a contract that he is ending June 31st 2017 when he takes ear...

Is it possible something happened to him? Maybe he had a health or family crisis. It would be a policy not to potentially upset or panic attached patients by telling them that. Maybe thats why the manager didnt give any info,
Im not sure a therapist would do that to you after six years on purpose.

I can totally understand how you feel!

 

[Seasounds]

Very sorry!

 

[mrsps]

As someone who has been terminated by a T I feel your pain!
((hugs))

 

[Deleted member 33880]

I am in shock. I keep crying a lot and shaking and then going numb for a bit and then it starts up again. I cannot seem to get my thoughts around it. I think he cannot possibly have done this lightly, easily, without serious thought. He KNOWS me! He knows how damaging it will be for me. He knows this, more than anyone else on this planet. He cannot possibly have done this lightly. He must be in break down or something. I don't know. I just don't know. I fear that he is punishing me for something. I fear that he has just had enough of me. I can't work it out. I can't believe this is actually really truly happening.

 

[Suzetig]

Did you not say his elderly father had died, which is why he had cancelled sessions with you? It's entirely possible that he's just not able to be at work because of his own grieving process rather than anything to do with you. And, given he's so close to retirement I imagine his employers have arranged for him to go now rather than come back to work after what could be a lengthy absence.

His employer have a duty to care for him and if he isn't able to be at work, it follows that he can't have contact with clients outside of work. I know it means a horrible, abrupt ending when the ending process was hard enough for you but you do have some information about what's happened that he's ended the way he has. It's horrible but unavoidable too in the circumstances.

Are the clinic going to arrange for you to see someone else for some support while longer term plans are put in place?