What I Really Want To Ask My Therapist

[Suzetig]

I could have written your entire post @Lola Nocheprieta - I too worry that I'm too functional, have avoided lots of minefields and generally keep myself looking pretty "normal".

There's a time when I would have been too scared to ask those questions but now I pretty much know the answers to those questions, I hope you can get to where it's ok to ask for yourself.

 

[Lola Nocheprieta]

Thanks, @Suzetig! Sometimes I think I know the "right" answer, the one that makes sense, but I feel something terribly different, deep down, if I'm honest. So I just keep working on it. Fortunately, I have a great T, and we've developed a strong therapeutic alliance. I trust her and I am scrupulously honest about what I do/experience, and try to be honest about what I think or how I feel. That helps.

 

[anonymous]

nything you want to ask your therapist

I'd ask really offensive questions, if they're being fake, if they've ever been in therapy, if they believe it works, if they're thinking I'm an idiot the whole time I'm with them. Maybe that's transference, lol

 

[Suzetig]

I don't think they're offensive questions at all - they're very reasonable questions to ask. Mine is open about having been in therapy - she believes in what she does and so takes herself back into therapy if and when she feels the need. In the U.K. most therapists will have been in therapy as a training requirement but I think it's fair to ask.

 

[anonymous]

Thanks suzetig, I really appreciate that

I just feel very silly in therapy, I find it a very difficult process because I am probably a person who needs much more than they're allowed to give.

Oh, this is actually opening things up for me as I type.. That's really interesting

Like, I feel I would need loads of their time, I would need them to be available when I need them and that's not possible because of boundaries. I guess what gets to me is knowing they're doing a job and that tends to make me feel they don't genuinely care about me.

Sorry I don't want to derail the thread. I will journal offline instead

Thanks again

 

[Angela Corgan]

I suppose it depends on the type of psychotherapist. Mine has the 'blank canvas' technique. She NEVER answers a question about me. But I have got used to it and it does make me reflect. I have learnt to know what she will do next there are set patterns in her communication and behaviour. I know what she thinks of me though she does comment.

 

[Deleted member 35429]

I want to ask him if he wants to have sex with me. I'm pretty sure he does. I think that's what keeps him interested. But maybe I'm wrong.

 

[EmmaOwl]

I too worry that I'm too functional, have avoided lots of minefields and generally keep myself looking pretty "normal".

I understand this worry and - I've spent years feeling that way, especially through high school and college.

I wrote a pretty long post on this topic and posted it on the PTSD: general discussion board. I thought it veered too far away from the topic, so I'll just post a link here: PTSD, Being Too Functional, Or Not Functional Enough

 

[CDKLaw]

I would like to ask things like:

Why do you make me feel so intensely uncomfortable?
Why do I find the way you look and smile at me so intense that can't I stand to look at you?
Why does your presence make me feel embarrassed?
Why do I kind of act casual and indifferent at the beginning of a session?
Why do I feel embarassed and nervy at the beginning of therapy?
Why am I sometimes really confident and connected but other times I feel so embarassed?
Why do I sometimes have contempt for you for absolutely no reason?

 

[Rumors]

I want to ask him if he wants to have sex with me. I'm pretty sure he does. I think that's what keeps him...

Huh?

 

[aut555]

I want to ask him if he wants to have sex with me. I'm pretty sure he does. I think that's what keeps him...

Whoa, slow down there. This is about healing you first.

 

[Deleted member 35429]

Whoa, slow down there. This is about healing you first.

I can't be the only person that thinks it would be cathartic to have sex with their therapist, right?
The thought of pleasuring him is thrilling to me.